Imjustamessidk Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Okay so just recently ive connected with a guy that i used to go to highschool with when he was home on leave (he's currently ober seas and will be for the next year until returning home). We hungout a couple of times and then when he went back overseas and we texted practically all day everyday for about two months. QUICK SIDE NOTES: when he came home, he had JUST ended things with the girl he was seeing for a long time. (And then we hungout) and before that about three months before that i got out of a ver abusive relationship(physically and mentally) and so we were both kindof still recovering. ANYWAYS so when he went back over seas we were texting and video chatting and snapchatting constantly. He brought up mutiple times me going iver there to visit him, started calling eachother babe and cute names ect. I was super happy because i felt like after the terrible relationship i had previously I finally found someone who seems like a genuinely nice person and someone I connected with. He seemed very interested in me and seemed like he wanted a relationship. After about 3 or 4 weeks i was wondering what the status of our relationship would be so i asked him and he said he didn't know me well enough to call his girlfriend just yey, but he wanted to see where things went. That was about a month ago and nothing since has changed... But the other night i had a few too much to drink and i brought up his ex who hed recently left and something just kindof switched and we've hardly spoken at all since then. Im completely understanding that hes in the military and busy means busy but he has his read on, hes always going out with his friends posting on Facebook and snapchat ect. But i really just would like to know if i am being just overly anxious and worried about the status of things or if i was too forthcoming about making things exclusive that i scared him away. Also my other thought is he could be speaking with his ex again... IDK. Literally any advice would help here. Should i play it cool and act like it doesnt bother me or should i ask him if i upset him or what... I really like him and am just kinda bummed about this whole thing. :/
GorillaTheater Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 What did you say when you brought up his ex?
kendahke Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Ask him if what you said upset him and why he's being distant. Those aren't frightening questions to a mature person.
Author Imjustamessidk Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 I think im more frightened of asking him than him getting asked! Ive never been one to be super forthcoming and everyones told me to just give him space and if he wants to talk than he will...but its just so difficult!
Author Imjustamessidk Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 What did you say when you brought up his ex? All i really did was mention her name..i apologized gor bringing it up and he said it was fine he just doesnt like thinking about her
Httm Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 I don't find long distance to be healthy or viable. I'd certainly never do it. Find someone local.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 All i really did was mention her name..i apologized gor bringing it up and he said it was fine he just doesnt like thinking about her In what context did you mention her? What did you say, specifically?
Author Imjustamessidk Posted February 17, 2016 Author Posted February 17, 2016 In what context did you mention her? What did you say, specifically? I dont remember the context exactly (was drunk) and i had asked if he still was speaking to her and he said no and then like i said it was almost like a switch i turned and since that moment hes been very distant and hasnt spoken to me hardly at all.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 All you can really do is apologize and sincerely tell him you didn't mean to cause any offense. The rest is up to him. If he stays distant, I'd just let go.
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