dazed343 Posted June 10, 2005 Posted June 10, 2005 I broke things off with my gf a few days ago and its been really tough and she called me this morning. At some points she told me she still loved me which I know and can believe but then she said don't do any thinking because Im not getting back. What made the call so hard was that she was a wreak on the phone but not only, she was asking me the reasons why I left and she would have done anything for me. It was tough to keep to it because when I got off the phone I was thinking maybe I made a mistake. Im feeling sooo down today... For every reason I had for breaking up she explained things and then told me she would have done anything for me. I didn't know what to say on the phone and I feel like crap.
dogood4urself Posted June 10, 2005 Posted June 10, 2005 I am sorry, I know you are probably confused and really hurt right now. You should probably take it easy for a little bit. I know how it feels to feel like you may have made a mistake. But you did break up with her and there are reasons for that, and you have to remember those reasons. I would say write them down and put them somwhere you can see them. As far as you thinking you have made a mistake...maybe you have and maybe you have not, but you obviously need some space to think about it, because right now, you are clouded with emotions, feelings, longing, and loneliness... you need to look past that all that and see things for how they really are/were, and then decide whether or not you want to give it another chance. Be on the other side of the fence for a while, I know its hard but in the end it may be better for both of you. Hang in there, I promise you it gets better.
westernxer Posted June 10, 2005 Posted June 10, 2005 Dude, you are such a pvssy. Now you're letting her make you feel guilty for something you've been wanting to do for a while. You'll never reach the lake when you're stuck in the mud.
ImaManDammit Posted June 10, 2005 Posted June 10, 2005 You may have goofed. These issues you had with her, did you ever mention it BEFORE you broke up with her? Maybe given her a chance to change things BEFORE you took that drastic step. I know it sound like I'm being hard on you, and I am. Its because you are the person doing the breaking up. Man or woman there is a responsibility associated with that role, and breaking up with someone should never be taken lightly, no matter how just the situation. If you weren't sure and confused and did all this, and now are maybe thinking about getting back with her, you needlessly put the girl through all this pain. So having said that. Think about this long and hard. If you plan to get back together, COMMUNICATE. Then if it comes to this again it will come down to something alittle more concrete. But don't get back together again with her just because she is a wreck. That wouldn't be doing either of you any good.
Author dazed343 Posted June 10, 2005 Author Posted June 10, 2005 Originally posted by ImaManDammit You may have goofed. These issues you had with her, did you ever mention it BEFORE you broke up with her? No alot of them I never talked to her about which I know wasn't right, because whenever she asked me about those things or if stuff was ok I would tell her it was. Originally posted by ImaManDammit If you weren't sure and confused and did all this, and now are maybe thinking about getting back with her, you needlessly put the girl through all this pain. She originally broke things off because of her kids but then we got back together. Since that time I tried breaknig things off but (read my other posts) it always ended up back at square one though each time I put her through hurt. Westernxer, I hope the water is a really nice blue after the mud. I know she's probably trying to make me feel guilty, Im just feeling down and thinking "did I make a mistake?" "Will I find someone with her good qualities?" I know with my ex ex, I thought I would never find anyone like her and found reasons to stay but look where I am and I very rarely think about my ex ex. I really should look at the reasons why I broke things off, maybe that will make things easier.
westernxer Posted June 11, 2005 Posted June 11, 2005 Originally posted by dazed343 I really should look at the reasons why I broke things off, maybe that will make things easier. You need to stop talking to her altogether, just so you can clear your head. Maybe you can move to another galaxy.
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted June 11, 2005 Posted June 11, 2005 i broke up with my ex and that same day i regret it.. bcuz i didnt want to break up but sumthing his best friend told me made me think he didnt wanna b with me so i did it 4 him so i wouldnt get hurt (since i always do)..but neways.. he got mad bcuz i had said many mean things.. and i regret it cuz i realised i should have listened to him and not his freind.. i wanted him bak but he said" u broke up with me lest keep it dat way"..... he didnt want to talk to me and i refused to stop and he got more mad.. he later said he had made a mistake by leeving me and not listening to me rather than his friends.. he was going out with this other gurl when he told me this.. he said he never regret getting with her but that he should have thought about wut he did b4 instead of hurting me.. he said he loved his gurl but that i was a great a great gurl.. all this started when he asked me if it was right for a gurl to love him for HIM and nuttin else... i told him the truth of how i felt.. i said... "ok wel in my opinion .. well i think u r.. " he said wow y do u think that.. and i sed "well .. umm u are like really sweet and u treat gurl different.. u r a great guy no matter wut even of sum one else thinx different cuz they dont know u.. other niggas are like so ... ugh iunno nasty minded like iunno they dont know how to spit game u know how to and ur are just different.. i cant expain it u know.. but i think u r dont think otherwise...." and thats when he told me he made a mistake leeving me... but...nothing happened after that.... ...he had asked me hang out with him like go to the movies with him or sumthing but to not ket him do nething .. like kiss me or sumthing.. and he later sed no that he shouldnt bcuz he knew he was gonna do sumthing and he didnt want to hurt his gurl.... ..he really does like her.. he loves her....i wish he wouldnt have loved me that way....
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted June 11, 2005 Posted June 11, 2005 "i wish he wouldnt have loved me that way.... " oops i meant "i wish he would have loved me that way"
ImaManDammit Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by dazed343 No alot of them I never talked to her about which I know wasn't right, because whenever she asked me about those things or if stuff was ok I would tell her it was. This is the exact same reason my marriage eneded. We never told each other anything, and they it finally blew up and it was too late to save anything. She originally broke things off because of her kids but then we got back together. Since that time I tried breaknig things off but (read my other posts) it always ended up back at square one though each time I put her through hurt. Well your choices are somewhat limited, if you plan to get back with her, I think it best you seek some type of counselling. If not then it best to cut off your ties and move on. Most important thing though is to learn from this, so it doesn't get repeated.
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 this is simthing i heard in a song...." let her fly she will come bak soon....let her fly and dont look for her if she doesnt come back she will regret it because it was you who showed her how to love....let her go and dont cry anymore...let her pay for her mistake of leeving you"....so just dont stick in there and say you will get back with her cuz trust me life has many surprises....many.. you never know whats going to happen.. just wait and see if you really want to b with her and theres a second chance PLEASE dont loose it.. cuz u might not get it again..
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