kaykay101 Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 i was chatting with this guy on bumble, and we ended up meeting out one night, having a few drinks, and we ended up hooking up. it wasn't necessarily my intention, but it happened. based on how little we knew about each other and typical dude patterns, i figured a.) it would amount to a one night thing, or b.) he would booty call me later. so 2 days after this, mid-afternoon he texted with a random funny reference to the weekend, we went back and forth a few times. the next day i sent him a link to a youtube video and his response didn't really warrant anything back. so four days go by, and he texts me again this morning asking how i am, we have a short conversation, he tells me he's been swamped at work. i just don't get it. he hasn't asked me out again, but he just starts these random, short, essentially meaningless conversations. what's his objective here?
losangelena Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 (edited) i was chatting with this guy on bumble, and we ended up meeting out one night, having a few drinks, and we ended up hooking up. it wasn't necessarily my intention, but it happened. based on how little we knew about each other and typical dude patterns, i figured a.) it would amount to a one night thing, or b.) he would booty call me later. so 2 days after this, mid-afternoon he texted with a random funny reference to the weekend, we went back and forth a few times. the next day i sent him a link to a youtube video and his response didn't really warrant anything back. so four days go by, and he texts me again this morning asking how i am, we have a short conversation, he tells me he's been swamped at work. i just don't get it. he hasn't asked me out again, but he just starts these random, short, essentially meaningless conversations. what's his objective here? Time will tell. Better question is, what's your objective? What do you want from all this? Fwiw, that happened to me once at it turned into a fwb sitch. Edited February 16, 2016 by losangelena
Redhead14 Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 i was chatting with this guy on bumble, and we ended up meeting out one night, having a few drinks, and we ended up hooking up. it wasn't necessarily my intention, but it happened. based on how little we knew about each other and typical dude patterns, i figured a.) it would amount to a one night thing, or b.) he would booty call me later. so 2 days after this, mid-afternoon he texted with a random funny reference to the weekend, we went back and forth a few times. the next day i sent him a link to a youtube video and his response didn't really warrant anything back. so four days go by, and he texts me again this morning asking how i am, we have a short conversation, he tells me he's been swamped at work. i just don't get it. he hasn't asked me out again, but he just starts these random, short, essentially meaningless conversations. what's his objective here? Keeping you on a string . . . 1
smudge21 Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Maybe he's testing the water, unsure of how to proceed. Probably sat at home thinking that he may want more, may want to see you again, may want to see if you want more or may just be worried you want more and he doesn't. As much as you're thinking about this, so is he. Could be a time for one of you to step up and make the next move. As you've already bumped uglies there should be no reason not to feel open to just telling him you'd like to meet for a drink... and then just see what happens. I personally hate those times as I went through similar a while back and come the morning had no idea how she felt about it all. I eventually had to just blurt it out and ask. Turns out it was just a one off, but at least I knew. It turned into a two off that very same day... and then nothing. Typical!
Author kaykay101 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 i am looking for a relationship, eventually. i'm dating a few other guys as well (haven't slept with them), and i'm still getting to know everyone and gauging where things might head. i just found it odd that he sporadically texts, but really doesn't carry the conversation on or ask me out, as I've never witnessed this kind of behavior previously.
Methodical Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 He's texting tidbits to keep you on the booty call list. 3
Redhead14 Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 i am looking for a relationship, eventually. i'm dating a few other guys as well (haven't slept with them), and i'm still getting to know everyone and gauging where things might head. i just found it odd that he sporadically texts, but really doesn't carry the conversation on or ask me out, as I've never witnessed this kind of behavior previously. Unless or until he actually calls you for a date, becomes consistent with and having more quality communication and dates, he's just guy keeping you on a string 1
katiegrl Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Unless or until he actually calls you for a date, becomes consistent with and having more quality communication and dates, he's just guy keeping you on a string I agree. My ex and I had sex the first night we met too....BUT he called the next day, asked me out for that night....and while out together, asked me if I was seeing anyone else, asked me if I prefer to date one-at-a-time or multi.... and when I replied no I wasn't seeing anyone and I only date one-at-a-time....he told me he wanted to date me exclusively to see where this would lead....and I agreed. Six years we were together till we broke up in December (long story). OP, if he were interested in dating you, he would be setting up that next date asap. JMO
Miss Peach Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 I agree with the PPs. He's just trying to keep a foothold in your life in case he wants seconds. 2
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