LoveRefreshed Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 So yeah, gf doesn't have much expectations. She basically spent ten years with a guy who sponged off her and had a hard time keeping down a street sweeping job at an amusement park. I took her to a restaurant. A small Austrian themed café that was running a 5 course valentines day meal (no ordering.. it is what it is style dinner) and I ordered a bottle of wine with our dinner and we had coffee's after at the restaurant with our desert and then we left. That was my sole present to here, and with tip, the evening came to around $190.00. It was expensive, but that's all I got her and I loved it. I had such an amazing time at dinner, it was fun, we both were smiles and laughs the whole night. We came home and had a great time. She made me a cross word puzzle that was themed with things about us (where we met, a song we both really like that relates to us, etc.. and it was cute and fun!) and she apparently is feeling inadequate. Like she told me she feels guilty because apparently she peeped the receipt when I was in the bathroom at the restaurant. She said she has never gone on a date with a man that has ordered a bottle of wine. I wish she would realize I don't care how much money she spends on me any advice on what I can say so that she doesn't feel insecure or bad about this. I want her to enjoy the dates I take her out on in the future and not feel guilty about it.
smudge21 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 First off, it's her problem not yours. You have done nothing wrong. The fact is, she's been used to a certain type and so it's an issue she has to deal with. You can only be you. You treat her well, spoil her, take her out, no because you feel you have to, but because you want to... because you love her. I doubt you're throwing $100 bills every time you see her and this was a special occasion. You just have to simply say this is how you are and it makes you feel good to make her feel good. It's a tough one though as a mate dated someone similar who would only ever odd water at a restaurant etc, and eventually he just had to walk away as she wouldn't just let go and accept his generosity. Some people are simply like that and you can't change them. Maybe next time take her for a happy meal and explain that it's not where you go or how much is spent, it's just being with her that makes you happy. 3
road Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 I do not see any future problems. She is learning her self worth by the way you treat her. She, I am sure is very happy with you and I do not see any problems unless you screw up and start to over analyze things and you let that effect your decision making process and change the way you court a woman. 2
d0nnivain Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 The disparity can be shocking to someone who has never been treated well before. Don't chase after her with apologies. You did nothing wrong & you enjoted the meal too. If you are not putting yourself in the poor house by dropping almost $200 on dinner, don't sweat it. In time she will become more at ease.
smackie9 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 You both will have forgotten about this in about 12 hours.
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