Claire 1 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 I was suggested by 2 people here- btw, thank you- to talk to my boyfriend about sex. I said to him one evening that I wanted to talk to him about us having sex, what will our sex life be,how it will change our relationship. He went very quiet and shy, I'd never seen him like that. Eventually we talked , a lot. We sorted out many things. Since then we have got much more intimate in bed, which I asked for. He is very handsome and sexy which I told him- make him feel good, I thought. He is very concerned that it wil be my first time, I told him try not to worry, as long as he wil comfort me if needed its ok. He doesn't want to hurt me, I think this is normal first time. His problem is other girls he's had sex with have had it before! Finally I'm on the pil he is worried if it doesn't work and I get pregnant. We talked a lot about him using a condom we both decided he wouldn't as sex is better without. Any advice? We plan to have more time in bed Friday night get very intimate, sex... He asked no rushing, I said I agree, relax,enjoy.
smudge21 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 One thing, you do know that the pill doesn't stop diseases therefore condoms are for much more than unwanted pregnancies. Yes, we all know it feels better, but seriously, one moment of pleasure for a lifetime of regret - not saying either of you have any nasties crawling around down below, but no one can ever 100% sure. Play safe kids. Besides, if he's nervous enough already then how is making him more worried going to help? 2
road Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 No love glove No lovin STD's can at the worst kill you, at the least non curable, and keep future men from wanting to date let alone marry you. 1
TheArtist Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 Did you try the ultra sensitive condoms? There are plenty that don't feel like a bicycle innertube you know. It's much safer (and much more 'contained'). 1
smackie9 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 Don't let him start making all the decisions about sex and the use of condoms. Since he has had an active sex life, it would be best for him to get tested...not just for aids/HIV, herpes, etc but also for the HPV virus. Not all std tests are the same, you have to make sure what you are being tested for. He may not have any symptoms, he can still be a carrier. You do not want to put yourself at risk. You better have a new talk with him about this.....please don't let him convince you he is clean, or it's ok to do it without a condom....this about you and your protection. I don't care if you are in love, or this talk may spoil the mood....it's not worth the risk. 1
Author Claire 1 Posted February 15, 2016 Author Posted February 15, 2016 He doesn't force me into decisions. I will speak to him more later tonight. Ultra sensitive condoms sound good, I will be very decisive in this matter. I will make sure all is clear about tests for HIV etc. I have learnt a lot, thanks
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