Am I over thinking this? or do people actually do this?

[CrudeMood]

I'll try to make this short. We met through mutual friends recently and somehow we both found out that we are attracted to each other. We don't see each other often but when we do, I can sense really strong chemistry. We definitely flirt when we're around each other.

 

This one particular get together we had, a valentines day themed party, a mutual friend of both of ours texted me to see if I was going. At the beginning I thought this was strange seeing as she NEVER does this. I didn't think much of it. I told her I was going. (My crush and I don't have each other's number by the way.)

 

An important detail is that these two have been friends for a long time before I was introduced to the group.

 

Long story short. My crush brings an old flame to the party. They weren't exactly affectionate towards each other, in fact my crush was acting b*tchy towards her old flame.

 

My crush acted like nothing she did was wrong. She smiled and made eye contact with me.

 

I thought maybe the text from the friend and my crush bringing her crush have something to do with one another.

 

Am I over thinking this? Do people actually go out of their way to do these types of things? I'm not completely bothered by this but mostly curious to see if people actually do this.

[smudge21]

You're both single then? So why not get her number and contact her. You can sit overthinking this for the next few months whilst she possibly sits there too waiting for you to make a move, or you can make that move.

 

 

If she blows you off then at least it's only a crush and you can move on, if not, you can take her out and have a good time. Basically you're making this more difficult than it actually is. Who knows why she did what she did or her friend did that or the other. The fact is nothing has moved forward so time to get pushing or walk away. Your call.

[d0nnivain]

Crushes are free to act however they please because they might not even be aware of your interest. In this case, I think your crush might know.

 

 

However, you have now seen a pretty lousy side of her. Are you really sure you want to go there? She doesn't seem like a nice person bringing an old flame to a Valentine's party (giving him false hope?) and throwing him in your face.

 

 

Also it's ridiculous that you don't have her #. Get it from her & use it sooner rather than later.

[Versacehottie]

It would be nice if endings and beginnings were completely clean cut and smooth but much of the time they are not. They are jagged and bleed on onto the next.

 

Without direct action from you, is she supposed to stop living her real life over a crush? She may have a crush on you (sounds like it) but until you step it up, it is merely a fantasy/fun thing. Ask her out. Yes the friend can be trying to help (with or without her consent). She may like you better for this girl then her on-off/current-ish guy. Friends tend to notice these things. A small slice of friends can be a little too pushy/hopeful where it isn't their place or appropriate. Don't read too much into the friend and their comments. Make your own fate. Good luck.

[Popsicle]

I realize that a lot of people can't and won't be alone. They expect someone to rescue them from their rocky relationship, but I can't be bothered. It's too risky. Your crush has unfinished business.