LookAtThisPOst Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 I wasn't sure what category to put this under, but I recall some topics involving how to "keep a person's" interest and sometimes I see profiles of women saying, "Do not be boring!" or "Must be able to hold my interest!" Those are usually red flags for me because this is likely a sign of a person that bores too easily and will easily bail on a relationship when the going gets tough (or boring). I liken this to people who get bored of a material item in the same fashion. I grew up in a family where if kids said, "I'm bored!" even though they have a room full of toys. Reminds me of that Family Circle comic. lol. Pretty good analogy if you think about it. This is why I think some divorces are such at a high rate and relationships not long lasting. I had a friend of mine tell me his married friend of 30 years came home to a wife that was packing her bags and simply leaving. He said he was a good husband and had always been good to his wife, so there was no real REASON, other than probably just being bored that she left him. He knew his friend pretty well, characterwise and knew he wasn't an arsehole or anything, but I guess she was just through with being married...as I know some people just change or evolve over time and it is inevitable that these things simply don't last and I have a female friend that's been married once, and said she'll never do it again because of how people tend to change during the course of their marriage. As if there was some kind of inevitability of it never lasting. Of course she mentioned that the occasional relationship for the sake of companionship is nice, but that's pretty much of the extend of her single life. Is walking out on a marriage just because you're bored a real good reason to be leaving someone (both men and women)?
LostOnes05 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 Nope... walking out because you're bored is a reflection on you, not the other person. No one's purpose in life is to keep someone entertained. If you're bored...get a hobby, not a new husband/wife. 1
Larryville Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 Those are usually red flags for me because this is likely a sign of a person that bores too easily and will easily bail on a relationship when the going gets tough (or boring). I liken this to people who get bored of a material item in the same fashion. People who bore easily are generally the drama queen and/or attention **ore types Many women desperately needs drama in relationships to feel alive or relevant. The type of girl that will start a fight, just to make things "interesting". The type of girl that will date guys she knows that are unfaithful, just so she can win him over. The type the will stay with a guy that calls her out of her name just so she can cry to her friends and male friends about how bad he treats her. This is the type of girl that thrives on destructive relationships, because its "exciting". She can't deal with having a man who treats her with respect, because that’s "boring" and "uneventful". If a woman is putting that in a profile it is a precursor, particularly if the site you are on shows longest relationship as being a year or less. Someone mature will help bring balance to a relationship, they don’t need to be constantly entertained and performed for. And yes they will almost always have one foot out of the door. Exactly why men need to pay more attention to profiles. You can tell by the type of pictures too, as stated in the (dating profile red flags post) pictures with sunglasses, drinks, party pics, pics with other people or exes cut out. Probing IN more depth will save you time, heartache and MONEY! 1
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted February 15, 2016 Author Posted February 15, 2016 People who bore easily are generally the drama queen and/or attention **ore types Many women desperately needs drama in relationships to feel alive or relevant. The type of girl that will start a fight, just to make things "interesting". The type of girl that will date guys she knows that are unfaithful, just so she can win him over. The type the will stay with a guy that calls her out of her name just so she can cry to her friends and male friends about how bad he treats her. This is the type of girl that thrives on destructive relationships, because its "exciting". She can't deal with having a man who treats her with respect, because that’s "boring" and "uneventful". If a woman is putting that in a profile it is a precursor, particularly if the site you are on shows longest relationship as being a year or less. Someone mature will help bring balance to a relationship, they don’t need to be constantly entertained and performed for. And yes they will almost always have one foot out of the door. Exactly why men need to pay more attention to profiles. You can tell by the type of pictures too, as stated in the (dating profile red flags post) pictures with sunglasses, drinks, party pics, pics with other people or exes cut out. Probing IN more depth will save you time, heartache and MONEY! Right, esp. posed pics in a "Sex in the City" fashion, all lined up in night club attire in a "showgirl" line-up, big drunk smiles on their faces...with gawking night club men photobombing in the background.
smackie9 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 Ones who say they don't want boring usually means they would probably be attracted to bad boys. 1
thecrucible Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 Ones who say they don't want boring usually means they would probably be attracted to bad boys. That's exactly how I interpreted it. There's a dating show in the UK called Take Me Out where women select a man to take them on a date to a Spanish island - a man they haven't met before. So in the last episode, there was a rehash of the date they went on and the man there seemed perfectly good to me - he seemed like a kind chap. With a few asides to the camera she said "I think he's a bit boring. I prefer a lad's lad". I took that to mean bad boy as a real lad's lad wouldn't exactly make a good boyfriend. I'm sure that she will eventually cease to find that kind of man attractive. That's not to say the guy she was on a date with was necessarily right for her. Personally I hate when people say "don't be boring". Those people don't have enough imagination and they usually don't give the other person much of a chance to be interesting.
BlueIris Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Ooh, that’s me! I wouldn't put it in a profile, but I like guys who love and are challenged by their work,who are conversational and curious about things, who get excited about things they heard or read or were just pondering. It's essential for me. Consider it my version of physical attraction- absolute prerequisite for a relationship.
rickdiculous Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 I'v dated boring people. They do exist. And sometimes I can be a very boring person to some people. I was dating a man and he wasn't just wasn't a big talker. But, he loved to party which made him exciting. Is he a "boring" person. No! I just found him boring because talking is important to me. Different things are exciting to different people. I think science is exciting and I love to talk about it. For other people it is ...booring. Stop blaming other people for not picking you because your boring. I have people reject me and I think it was because I was boring. I self-reflect and look at it from their perspective. The man went on to say lack of friends was disappointing. (I think he found me boring too) Being exciting or boring is normal it happens. If you think really hard you may find out your a boring person too. 1
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 I'v dated boring people. They do exist. And sometimes I can be a very boring person to some people. I was dating a man and he wasn't just wasn't a big talker. But, he loved to party which made him exciting. Is he a "boring" person. No! I just found him boring because talking is important to me. Different things are exciting to different people. I think science is exciting and I love to talk about it. For other people it is ...booring. Stop blaming other people for not picking you because your boring. I have people reject me and I think it was because I was boring. I self-reflect and look at it from their perspective. The man went on to say lack of friends was disappointing. (I think he found me boring too) Being exciting or boring is normal it happens. If you think really hard you may find out your a boring person too. Well, it's all subjective if you think about it. 1
Wewon Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 I would see these declarations as a red flag. I would think that this is a person that expects others to do things for them, even something like entertain them. I agree with whoever said that they would suspect them of being a drama queen.
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