DarkHeart Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 me and my ex boyfriend didnt get into a huge fight and break up. he just left me. i dont even know why. he just stopped messaging me, drifted away and became cold and distant. he's like that with everyone i think. i guess i just didn't see that side of him. ive been missing him so much it hurts. he was my first boyfriend so i really loved him. it's also my first breakup so it hurts like hell. it doesn't help that i have anxiety and depression. i got really attached to him. i recently made a facebook profile and sent him a request, days passed untill he finally accepted . he messaged me saying hi and the conversation was really short. he took ages to reply and just seemed really uninterested. i felt so rejected. i already lost him once, i couldn't lose him again so i messaged him the next day which was yesterday. thankfully the conversation went on longer and wasnt as awkward as the first one but i noticed i was always the one having to come up with the topics and start the conversation. he mostly only replied. i made the mistake of wishing him happy valentines day and he said " you know where not dating anymore right" i replied saying after weeks of no contact i got the hint because if we where dating we wouldn't have gone all those weeks without talking. the conversation cut short cause we both had to go for a while. i was so embarrassed, i felt like i said the wrong thing. we talked again after and thankfully forgot what he said before about not being together. i messaged him today cause he was online, i tried not to but he was online for a while so i figured i might as well. i asked him if he works on Mondays and that i thought he would be at work. he didn't reply. im now worried he's ignoring me. it's so hard to stay in contact with him. he's so uninterested in me. i feel like he hates me. i feel so rejected every time i message him but i miss him so much. how do i stop him from leaving again and stay in contact ?
kztar Posted February 19, 2016 Posted February 19, 2016 This was not a good idea. You need to MOVE on and stay NC with this person. He clearly wants nothing to do with you. Think about him in your mind but completely cut the contact, otherwise you will not be moving forward.
nauticalpoem Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 I am sorry you're having to deal with this. He does not sound like a very nice person. I am sorry he didn't end up being the person you thought he was. It's not because you messaged him or wished him a happy valentines day. It's because he's a jerk who obviously doesn't care about hurting your feelings. As someone who also has severe anxiety and depression I can tell you that finding someone with a caring and genuine heart is important. The type of person that will go cold or be inconsistent will make you your worst. You'll feel terrible and then panic and then blame yourself and then feel worse. No bueno. Check this one off as a lesson learned. Focus on bettering yourself and then find the type of person you need. 1
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