rainedbows Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 Should I be upset about this? Because I am. Three years ago my SO promised to take photos of the pets for my birthday. Time passed and I kept asking for them. He took some decent ones but they never were edited nor made it to paper. Last month one of them passed away which was hard for me. Today he left for 20 minutes and came back with two frames with the same photo of the pet that passed. They were blurry (taken with a phone last year), off centered with part of his head cut off. One of them was even in a beat up frame. It's the thought that matters...yes. But it feels like there was no thought and he only did it because I was a little irritated that he didn't want to do anything for Valentine's Day, and Kinkos was on the way back from grabbing movies. This also meant something to me and it would have been nice to have them when he was alive, and not one random s****y photo of one of them :\ He does photography so he has to know this was a disaster. Any opinions would be helpful. Thank you
yxalitis Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 Should I be upset about this? Because I am. Three years ago my SO promised to take photos of the pets for my birthday. Time passed and I kept asking for them. He took some decent ones but they never were edited nor made it to paper. Last month one of them passed away which was hard for me. Today he left for 20 minutes and came back with two frames with the same photo of the pet that passed. They were blurry (taken with a phone last year), off centered with part of his head cut off. One of them was even in a beat up frame. It's the thought that matters...yes. But it feels like there was no thought and he only did it because I was a little irritated that he didn't want to do anything for Valentine's Day, and Kinkos was on the way back from grabbing movies. This also meant something to me and it would have been nice to have them when he was alive, and not one random s****y photo of one of them :\ He does photography so he has to know this was a disaster. Any opinions would be helpful. Thank you Three years is a long time not to take a photo, I'll agree. BUT, how was he with the pets? Were they always "your pets" that he tolerated, or was he fully involved in their furry little lives? If he wasn't really into them, well, that's a fundamental different approach to life. Not a deal breaker, just one of them annoying things in a relationship. Unless you are talking about fish, in which case, I agree with him...daft things.
CarrieT Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 With the age of great quality cameras in phones, aren't there any decent photos that YOU might have taken yourself? I think if photos of your pets were important to you and - after three years - if your SO wasn't doing the job, it is a little late to be angry about it. 1
Author rainedbows Posted February 15, 2016 Author Posted February 15, 2016 He is very involved with all of them, he's been around them for years and most are OUR cats and dogs. They are our lives, so he is close and involved. Sorry I wasn't very clear.
brokengirl85 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 Why don't you just photoshop the photos yourself? You'd never expect anything from others. They were your pets, your desires. Maybe he didn't feel like it to have tattoos of them, who knows. Just don't expect people to do things you consider important. Expectations are a sure way to frustration.
madjac74 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 No you shouldn't because he did not have to do anything. If it was that big an issue for you then you should have done something after 1 year rather than 3 years. 2
Arieswoman Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 rainedbows, It's a bit difficult to respond to your post with so little information, however... It could be that because he's a professional photographer he's had enough of it when he gets home and doesn't want to do it in what he considers his "free" time. ( I once knew a girl who was a keen gardener and married to a plumber. It took seven years for her husband to put in an outside tap on the property so she could water her plants!) However, if he didn't want to do it then he should've said so. I would be pretty hacked off about it as well, but I would have got hacked off after a month not three years. Is this the first time he's promised to do something and not followed through, or does he have a history of this?
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