Truly My Own Worst Enemy. Can you be too old to date?

[loveweary11]

Bollocks, forget the boat... Build an aircraft carrier.

 

I bet that would attract the birds.

 

Large hanger deck... `Ding dong` etc..

 

Seriously though, finish the boat and head off to sunnier climes.

 

Change of scenery sounds like the tonic.

 

that's the plan...

 

I'm not sure it gets much sunnier than this though.

 

Boat and I are in the tropics right now.

[edgygirl]

I'm in the same boat, boat boy

 

I just wish I cared... about anyone.

 

But I agree with others, you do seem to have an internal conflict going on.

Edited February 20, 2016 by edgygirl

[BronzeAgeJaeger217]

Most people will say never too old and never too late

[loveweary11]

I'm in the same boat, boat boy

 

 

 

But I agree with others, you do seem to have an internal conflict going on.

 

I do.

 

I'm trying to find my way in the world still, after my life path that I had assumed would carry me through to death changed.

 

To others, not Edgy:

 

How many people here responding were married a decade or more then divorced?

 

I'm pretty sure those are the ones who would be qualified to judge my turmoil as I find my new path. Otherwise, not really qualified to criticize until you've walked the path.

 

Mostly, all I was asking was if you can get too old to continue attracting women.

 

The overwhelming opinion is: You can never be too old to do so.,

 

Thanks

Edited February 20, 2016 by loveweary11

[Aniela]

I do.

 

I'm trying to find my way in the world still, after my life path that I had assumed would carry me through to death changed.

 

To others, not Edgy:

 

How many people here responding were married a decade or more then divorced?

 

I'm pretty sure those are the ones who would be qualified to judge my turmoil as I find my new path. Otherwise, not really qualified to criticize until you've walked the path.

 

Mostly, all I was asking was if you can get too old to continue attracting women.

 

The overwhelming opinion is: You can never be too old to do so.,

 

Thanks

 

You can be too old for a certain type of woman, unless she's only after money.

 

I was thinking earlier, that I know someone who is always up for a trip - she has a stable job right now, but she will also be impulsive and just take off whenever she can. She's been all over Europe, and the States, took off for Australia about four years ago, and is planning another trip. She also grows her own food, when she can. The only thing is, you would overlook her in a second, because she's 37, and blonde.

 

I remember you saying something about how you'd been with a girl who wasn't your ideal, in recent months, and I thought you were okay with that.

[MidwestUSA]

 

How many people here responding were married a decade or more then divorced?

 

Mostly, all I was asking was if you can get too old to continue attracting women.

 

Thanks

 

Married almost 18 years here (the first time).

 

Willing to bet I'm not too old to attract women either, if I were inclined. . I sure had no trouble in that regard back in high school.

[Ruby Slippers]

I think you're battling with your ego. On and on about your accomplishments, how hot and young the girls are, how many you've nailed. Who are you trying to impress? What are you trying to prove? That you're special, so far above most other people? Well, you're not special, and you're not better than anyone. Your intense attachment to the idea that you're so special and superior is pure ego. Ego is a cage we all have to break free from.

[Summer3]

Married almost 18 years here (the first time).

 

Willing to bet I'm not too old to attract women either, if I were inclined. . I sure had no trouble in that regard back in high school.

 

OK. But LW isn't concerned with attracting any woman. He wants a very beautiful woman and he's asking will a time come when he won't be able to attract a young beautiful woman. I've seen old men with young women. My guess is that they're together because the man has money.

 

In my personal opinion: I don't find men over 50 attractive. They look like old men to me. In fact, some men in their 40's look pretty old and I don't find that attractive either. My husband is in his 40's and I love him so I look at him differently. TBH I find the most attractive men are in their mid to late thirties. So there is some validity to the OP's concern. There will come a time when his age will affect his dating pool.

[MidwestUSA]

OK. But LW isn't concerned with attracting any woman. He wants a very beautiful woman and he's asking will a time come when he won't be able to attract a young beautiful woman. I've seen old men with young women. My guess is that they're together because the man has money.

 

In my personal opinion: I don't find men over 50 attractive. They look like old men to me. In fact, some men in their 40's look pretty old and I don't find that attractive either. My husband is in his 40's and I love him so I look at him differently. TBH I find the most attractive men are in their mid to late thirties. So there is some validity to the OP's concern. There will come a time when his age will affect his dating pool.

 

 

Of course it will, if his dating pool doesn't change. He may even hit a point where 50 somethings don't find him attractive!

 

So, you've NEVER seen an attractive over 50 guy? Sam Elliot can park his boots at my house anytime. Edward James Olmos, I could go on.

 

Attraction is more than looks, thankfully, as looks fade. I'll take my 49 year old over a thirty something any day. He doesn't look old, because I'm older!

 

But yes, OP could be one of those guys later, with the young one on his arm. It's absolutely within his rights. It's up to fate, and timing.

[Summer3]

Of course it will, if his dating pool doesn't change. He may even hit a point where 50 somethings don't find him attractive!

 

So, you've NEVER seen an attractive over 50 guy? Sam Elliot can park his boots at my house anytime. Edward James Olmos, I could go on.

 

Attraction is more than looks, thankfully, as looks fade. I'll take my 49 year old over a thirty something any day. He doesn't look old, because I'm older!

 

But yes, OP could be one of those guys later, with the young one on his arm. It's absolutely within his rights. It's up to fate, and timing.

 

There are certain things I am attracted to: A full head of dark hair, clear tight skin, dark eyes etc. When men get older they become too grey and washed out, skin sags, ears get bigger and their teeth gets weird. If I were to date again I'd probably date men who were younger than me, but I'm not planning on letting my husband go so I'm not going to think about that.

[MidwestUSA]

There are certain things I am attracted to: A full head of dark hair, clear tight skin, dark eyes etc. When men get older they become too grey and washed out, skin sags, ears get bigger and their teeth gets weird. If I were to date again I'd probably date men who were younger than me, but I'm not planning on letting my husband go so I'm not going to think about that.

 

You forgot the hair growing out of the nostrils and ears!

[Aniela]

You forgot the hair growing out of the nostrils and ears!

 

My sister once told me that she clipped hair out of her husband's ears. She grossed me out. He is a lot older than she is, and not rich, so I guess it can happen.

 

Tom Selleck was one of the few older men I found attractive. I can't believe he's 71.

[MidwestUSA]

My sister once told me that she clipped hair out of her husband's ears. She grossed me out.

 

The things we do for love!

 

Um, yea, I'll do that for my man. It's not like he can see inside his huge ears!

[William]

After a review, it seems the OP's question has been answered numerous times, so we will leave this one closed.

 

Thanks for all the replies everybody. ~T