How often should a woman pay on dates?

[swank]

Opinions please:

 

First few dates- man pays

Less than 2 months dating- after every 4,5 dates woman pays one

3-6 months- after every 3 dates woman pays one

 

I don't know for longer,not for this before.. what do you guys think?

[VintageWine]

It depends on the relationship and the individuals within the relationship. I'm saying this because when (generally speaking) we see this situation, it's a man and woman. However, there's woman with woman, man with man, and so forth. Which is why I said it depends on the couple and how they both feel about it.

 

I personally wouldn't mind splitting the bill, taking turns to pay for the bill. Also, let us say I have a boyfriend, if I asked my boyfriend if he wanted to grab lunch, I'll pay since I'm the one that asked him. Relationship to me is a partnership not really about "man does this, woman does this" gender roles kinda thing

[loveweary11]

Depends on the individuals and their respective economic situations.

 

I date younger girls. I pay for literally all dates and travel because they can't afford to do the sorts of things I want to do.

 

If I were dating Marissa Mayer, Sheryl Sandberg or Hilary Clinton, they should be picking up the tab.

[elizabetk]

It truly matters how much each of you earns - that being said, even if one of you earns significantly more, it is always nice to treat your partner. For example, I am currently in a relationship with an investment banker who earns more than he could spend and insists on treating me/us constantly. However, when I get the opportunity (and he doesn't make a big fuss about it), I buy food and cook us dinner as a treat or pay for lunch/coffee.

[Shanex]

I've been on many first dates when women paid or suggested we split the bill. Many were even sort of 'offended' that I suggested to pay, even for only two drinks.

[yxalitis]

If they are Asian, always.

I went on a date with a Chinese lady not too long ago.

Was going to be coffee, but she suggested it include brekky.

We had a great time, she chatted about her business as a financier and mortgage broker for wealthy Chinese investors. She was going to fly to New York and Miami in a week to conclude some business there.

The meal was $45.

At the pay counter she busied herself on her phone while I paid.

I then walked her to her car, a new $125,000 BMW 535i, which we chatted about, as I drive an older 325i.

And that's typical...men pay, regardless of relative income.

Maybe if we get serious she would offer, but from the start the man is still deemed provider, and has to prove himself as such.

[d0nnivain]

As a woman, unless our incomes were substantially different, I would expect to pay & did pay 1/2 the time.

[SwordofFlame]

The answer is it depends. There needs to be equal reciprocation and investment in each other by both parties. That's all I will say.

[Renae]

The guy I am dating makes way more than I do. He insists on alwaysnpaying, but I find ways to treat him. I buy food I know he likes, or when he mentions some random thing he really likes or used to have or something like that I try to find it for him.

[Otter2569]

Economics and the relationship factors aside I believe the man should pay for the first few dates. i do sincerely appreciate when the woman offers to pay.

 

As a guy I like it when the women at least offers to pay and when she takes me out. It just feels fair to me and shows me that she is invested...in more ways than one LOL

 

I dont think any dude (or woman) wants to feel like a gravy train for someone. If there is no offer to pay, contribute or reciprocate after a few dates then that would be a red flag for me.

[Shining One]

I believe each person should pay for alternating dates during the early dating phase. This way, if things don't work out, one party does not bear an unfair portion of the cost. Once the relationship has reached the exclusive/committed phase, the costs should be split proportionately to the disposable income of each person.

[Summer3]

Opinions please:

 

First few dates- man pays

Less than 2 months dating- after every 4,5 dates woman pays one

3-6 months- after every 3 dates woman pays one

 

I don't know for longer,not for this before.. what do you guys think?

 

After he buys you the engagement ring.

 

(I'm not kidding.)

[smudge21]

Who asks who out? Initially I would pay for the first few dates but after that, if she asked me out or at least made the suggestion of where to go, then I would expect her to pay. It wouldn't be a deal breaker though as compared to everything else, it's not really an issue.

[PegNosePete]

First few, man pays.

After that, take turns.

I would be put off by a woman who did not at least attempt to pull her weight.

[swank]

We are both students and our parents give us money most of the time. I payed like 85% of dates in 3 months... somethimes I didn't let her do it- I should

[road]

If they are Asian, always.

I went on a date with a Chinese lady not too long ago.

Was going to be coffee, but she suggested it include brekky.

 

 

We may drink Australian/Fosters though not everyone speaks Australian.

[road]

We are both students and our parents give us money most of the time. I payed like 85% of dates in 3 months... somethimes I didn't let her do it- I should

 

 

I would never let a woman pay for the date.

 

 

I would also never let my parents pay for my dates.

[HungryPanda]

I wouldn't want to date a man that keeps a tally for when who should pay.

 

I don't think either party should go into the first date expecting the other to pay. 50/50 is the most polite way.

 

I always offer to pay my half for the first date, and for subsequent dates if I chose the place then I'll pay, if he chooses then he pays, though I always offer to split cuz it feels rude not to. Btw I'm Asian and female, so screw that boring stereotype.

 

It really depends on your financial situation. If you can't afford to pay the full date, don't pick such an expensive place. If a guy takes me to a place I can't afford, I ain't paying. Though I always make it clear that I don't like fancy restaurants since I can make a pretty good meal at a fraction of the cost.

[Larryville]

This is one of these issues that is somewhat generational and depends on the type of person you are dating.

 

 

I’m older and tend to want to date, career oriented, educated, successful women. While I have a good job and make decent money those I have dated tended to make more than I did, but I ALWAYS paid on initial dates. As the “relationship” slightly evolved what it boils down to is while I might pay for dining Out, or drinks or even a movie if I am at her home, she would have purchased groceries, or drinks and put in the time and effort to cook or make the evening cool for me (not talking about sex). Doing for each other is not a big deal and if I like her all is cool.

However if you choose to date someone broke, not working, selfish and has nothing to offer who pays for dates THEN becomes a big deal.

 

Having her offering to pay is a good sign, similar to the "A Bronx Tale" - The door test” can google. Showing my age with this example…

[Jejangles]

Most guys I have seriously dated paid the first few dates (although I always offer). Then once we are more seriously "dating", we take turns. I make a decent salary, and have never dated anyone who makes a lot more than me, so why would I not pay my way?

[smackie9]

Meh it depends. If I asked someone out I paid in full without hesitation. If they asked me out I'd let them pay. If it was a meet up it would be whomever could grab the check quick enough or I would offer to cover the tip.