FeelingUseless Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 My bf and I recently broke up (about a month ago and I don't really want to get into why), and I was basically depressed the whole month. I've just started getting back to normal and I've started laughing again, but I'm still probably not really over it. Pretty much ever since we broke up though, I've been completely unattracted to literally every guy except my ex. Guys have talked to me and have tried to flirt with me but it's like every time they try, I just get so turned off that it's uncomfortable and they sense that and stop talking. Before I was with my ex, I was very flirty and even if I wasn't exactly attracted to the guy, I'd flirt with him, nothing serious of course, just like... light text flirting I guess? Will it pass with more time or will I just continue to not be attracted to anyone? Does it matter if my ex was the first guy I'd done anything sexual with (in person... and no actual sex)? Maybe because he was my first adult relationship? I don't really know, I've never really been in a situation like this before. After I break up with my ex's I'm usually already completely over it in a matter of hours or days (even the times when I was the one being dumped). I probably sound really dumb right now but it's a real concern for me. I would just like to know that when I get over him, I'll be able to find someone. It's a weird feeling for me to just lose all interest in all guys, I don't even remember when it happened... some guy texted me and I was just already over talking to him and the conversation hadn't even started. After that, I'd watch videos with people I used to be attracted to and I was just like "nope, I feel no attraction". I mean... it has gotten less severe I guess, where I'm able recognize that I could be attracted to a person, but if they flirted with me, I wouldn't reciprocate it... I guess it would be like looking at a sunset or beach, you know it's supposed to look beautiful and you can appreciate that, but you really could care less.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Breakups can sometimes feel quite traumatic, especially your first serious relationship. It is understandable that you might feel a loss of attraction to other people for a while, especially if you have felt depressed recently. In time those feelings will pass and you will be ready to move on. Just use this time to focus on other areas of your life that bring you happiness. You will be ok. 1
madjac74 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 Well you could be an 18 year old breaking up with her 6 month crush or you could be a 35 yr old breaking up with her 5 year fiance? big difference. more info
Author FeelingUseless Posted February 15, 2016 Author Posted February 15, 2016 Well you could be an 18 year old breaking up with her 6 month crush or you could be a 35 yr old breaking up with her 5 year fiance? big difference. more info I've pretty much just turned 20, he's 21. We were together about 5 months... it's not long, I know, but it was my first adult relationship and it felt different from all my other relationships.
madjac74 Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 I barely had any relationships at that stage. You really will be ok. There is a whole freaking world ahead of you
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