nsg1122 Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Broke up with my gf about two weeks ago. Been together for 3.5 years. Both each others first (She's 22 and I'm 24). Don't really know why she decided to break up, maybe GIGS, confusion, etc. Got a text from her brother last week saying she's really sad and he just wanted to check in on me. And then got one today from her close friends saying she's (ex gf's friend) sorry for what happened between us and if I needed to talk I could talk to her. I answered both texts with politeness and said I was fine. Is this my ex making them contact me? I know she cares about me still (maybe like a friend or maybe more). Other signs: She's not viewing my snapchats and I know she's very active on there (Shouldn't I be ignoring her snaps? But she is and she's the dumper....weird) Still friends with her on FB and still have pics of us up. When we broke up she said she was 90% sure about it (I know she may have not said she was 100% because she didnt want to hurt my feelings) but then when I tried to convince her not to end our relationship she started saying "crap...crap" repeatedly....indicating to me that she wasn't sure and maybe confused. And the days leading up to the breakup she texted me normally, said she loved me, even offered to pick up my parents from the airport two days earlier. And in terms of physicality, she's always initiated s*x. I honestly feel like she's confused and is caught up with stress from school. Think she maybe confused?
Simon Phoenix Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 No. I think she's mourning the breakup, which is normal no matter what side of the breakup coin you're on. Dumpers are usually sad at breaking up, especially in long-term relationships, but that doesn't mean that they regret or want to take back the breakup. There's nothing there to read into at this point. If any of that crap means anything, she'll contact you and tell you that she is reconsidering. Until she does that, there's no real news. 1
Holmes85 Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 nsg1122, Whenever your partner starts sending you confused signals and not communicating with you, the chances are they already have found your replacement and testing the waters with them. At this point since it's not a 100% sure deal with him, she has done 90% of the stuff in order to breakup with you, the other 10% is going to come from the other end and she would definitely leave you 100% and thats when these confused texts are going to stop as well. Confused about schools you say? Doesn't it strike you as a bit of odd that during the 3.5 years the school was never the issue and all of a sudden it's a issue, I am going to assume here that she told you a couple of B.S lines in order to make YOU confused about the whole thing. With everything you have written so far, I don't see a single doubt from your end on what you want, I see 110% of excuses coming from her end that are residing inside you. If she really does care for you and love you, why is she breaking up with you to hurt you? Her actions and words do not match, if you continue to keep in touch with her, she's going to drag you down to her level and play you hard, hit the eject button now and pick yourself up. This girl doesn't know what she wants and is going to continuously hurt you in her actions and words from now on, don't play that game with her, you would be just feeding her ego. Concentrate on yourself, a girl loves a confident man, take as much time as you need to heal and don't reply to her unless her intentions are crystal clear, if her responses make you feel unsure and more questions arise, I would not respond, for now like I said previously, I would start the healing process and only way to do it right is to cut her off completely and ask your friends not to give you any kind of updates on her, ignorance is bliss, trust me.
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