shyguy3543 Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Here's an honest question for you guys. Normally, I'd never even consider using a coupon on a first date... but I'm thinking of using a groupon on our "first" date. Hear me out and let me know what you think. 1) I've paid for dinner both times we've gotten it so far (~$60) 2) I covered the cost of snowboarding last week, and that evening had a date-like feel to it ($140) 3) While this is technically our first "real" date, this is going to be the 4th time we actually meet up (two times alone, one time with my friends) So for our upcoming date (the one that looks like will have to be rescheduled), I was going to take her out to dinner at this awesome little crepe place. Now this is where the groupon portion kicks in - I was gonna take her to an indoor go-kart place. I mentioned it to her and she loved the idea and said she's wanted to go to this place for years. The groupon gives us $70 worth of stuff for $30. Multiply that by 2 and we're talking about saving me $80. That's a cool little chunk of change when I'm a broke student who's making monthly school payments and *trying* to save up to buy an apartment. If it were $5, or even $20, I wouldn't even bother. If it were our first time spending time together at all, I wouldn't bother. I'm not a cheap mofo, but $80 tossed away is kinda sad at this point lol. She's not the kind of girl who wears designer clothing with designer bags and accessories, from what I've seen. She knows how it is to save up to buy an apartment (She just put in an offer on one and it was accepted). She'd understand.... right? Or is it too much of a risk? I should probably mention that this date is supposed to take place on Monday but I'm likely going to have to postpone it because I woke up with a cold today and I've got chills, a sore throat, and body aches. ugh!! It's never easy and simple haha
Art_Critic Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 I wouldn't do it unless you have been good friends before the first date, why go in with the possible negative when you have the chance to put your best foot forward.. save it for when impressions are not needed anymore 2
yxalitis Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Here's an honest question for you guys. Normally, I'd never even consider using a coupon on a first date... but I'm thinking of using a groupon on our "first" date. Hear me out and let me know what you think. 1) I've paid for dinner both times we've gotten it so far (~$60) 2) I covered the cost of snowboarding last week, and that evening had a date-like feel to it ($140) 3) While this is technically our first "real" date, this is going to be the 4th time we actually meet up (two times alone, one time with my friends) So for our upcoming date (the one that looks like will have to be rescheduled), I was going to take her out to dinner at this awesome little crepe place. Now this is where the groupon portion kicks in - I was gonna take her to an indoor go-kart place. I mentioned it to her and she loved the idea and said she's wanted to go to this place for years. The groupon gives us $70 worth of stuff for $30. Multiply that by 2 and we're talking about saving me $80. That's a cool little chunk of change when I'm a broke student who's making monthly school payments and *trying* to save up to buy an apartment. If it were $5, or even $20, I wouldn't even bother. If it were our first time spending time together at all, I wouldn't bother. I'm not a cheap mofo, but $80 tossed away is kinda sad at this point lol. She's not the kind of girl who wears designer clothing with designer bags and accessories, from what I've seen. She knows how it is to save up to buy an apartment (She just put in an offer on one and it was accepted). She'd understand.... right? Or is it too much of a risk? I should probably mention that this date is supposed to take place on Monday but I'm likely going to have to postpone it because I woke up with a cold today and I've got chills, a sore throat, and body aches. ugh!! It's never easy and simple haha Why on Earth would using a coupon in any way, shape, means or form be "bad" to use on a date, whether the first ot the 100th???? Who the effing heck cares? Sorry, totally confused... Dö you think it's somehow "cheap" Is there some thought that saving money is a BAD idea...? Wow.. 4
Art_Critic Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Who the effing heck cares? Maybe the girl who he is trying to impress... do you think it would impress her to use a groupon on their first date? 1
yxalitis Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 I wouldn't do it unless you have been good friends before the first date, why go in with the possible negative when you have the chance to put your best foot forward.. save it for when impressions are not needed anymore Huh? In what way is this "negative" He's a student, finding a way to entertain his date while saving money...to me that makes hIm MORE appealing, not less... This whole thread makes my brain hurt... 1
smackie9 Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Why are you spending so much money on her already when you haven't been on an official date yet? She is going to think this is how you roll....big spender. You are being a fool. You should be more creative if you are struggling a bit financially. It should be about spending time together, not blowing money you really don't have. oh well it's too late now.....groupon away. 3
MissBee Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 I think beyond the first date it's not as big of a deal. Also, if you're paying don't they just scan the voucher in your phone, so it's not this big to-do where you're taking out your coupon paper or they start yelling out that it's a coupon, it's quite discreet. I think you should be able to do it without it being a huge deal. I love Groupon and wouldn't look down on a man for using one, it's quite savvy actually. I would only find a problem with a guy who made it so that we could never ever do anything unless he had a Groupon for it, which is clearly not the case here. But using it sometimes or for great deals makes sense, cheap would be if you plan every date around when you can get a discount. 2
xcupid Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 It might have the appearance of being "cheap" for some women but if she's a student also then it will probably fly and she will understand. Sounds like a good deal if you're saving $$. Good luck.
smackie9 Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 I'm going to take a guess here...us older folks would find it unacceptable...I know I would, but that's just me. I myself would never use a groupon on a date.....maybe on a girl's night out. 1
Maggie4 Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Groupon, coupons, all good. I am always impressed when the man confidently pulls out a coupon. If he saves a lot, I'm thinking, "Wo! Where did he get that!" Not cheap. Resourceful, and not self-conscious. You're already treating her. Don't mind what she thinks. And don't use the groupon sheepishly, cos that ruins the whole effect. 4
yxalitis Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 I'm going to take a guess here...us older folks would find it unacceptable...I know I would, but that's just me. I myself would never use a groupon on a date.....maybe on a girl's night out. Can I ask...why? I honestly dont'get this. I can take you out, I have a budget of $xx I can either just spend that, or get more bang for the same $xx using a voucher. I don''t understand the problem. 3
smackie9 Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 I find coupons tacky that's why. I don't like using them myself. 2
Popsicle Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 I'm an "older folk" and since it's not a first date I say go for it. It wouldn't bother me. 3
joseb Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Why are you spending so much money on her already when you haven't been on an official date yet? That is my question too. 3
Author shyguy3543 Posted February 14, 2016 Author Posted February 14, 2016 I'm going to take a guess here...us older folks would find it unacceptable...I know I would, but that's just me. I myself would never use a groupon on a date.....maybe on a girl's night out. Can I ask...why? I honestly dont'get this. I can take you out, I have a budget of $xx I can either just spend that, or get more bang for the same $xx using a voucher. I don''t understand the problem. See, this is exactly what I'm thinking. It could go either way so easily! For what it's worth, she's 28 and I'm 27, so we're in the younger end of the spectrum, but that doesn't necessarily mean anything. To me, saving $ is good. If it were the other way around and it were her paying for me when we go somewhere (even if it's the first time), I wouldn't think anything about it. I'd actually think it's great. $80 isn't exactly pocket change! But she's a classy girl who seems kind of more on the old-fashioned side. I honestly don't know how she'd take it. 1
Author shyguy3543 Posted February 14, 2016 Author Posted February 14, 2016 Why are you spending so much money on her already when you haven't been on an official date yet? She is going to think this is how you roll....big spender. You are being a fool. You should be more creative if you are struggling a bit financially. It should be about spending time together, not blowing money you really don't have. oh well it's too late now.....groupon away. Because I wanted to kind of let it be known that it was a date, but the feeling of "hey, this is definitely a date!" was weak because we're both kind of shy. That, combined with the fact that I've had too many instances where I'd date a girl and they'd later come back and be like "oh wait, we're dating? I thought we were friends!" led to me suggesting that we make our next meet-up an "official" date. I wanted to make sure it was clear what I wanted. Probably should've done it after the first time we got some dinner, but it was our first time ever hanging out really and it had a really friendly vibe to it. It didn't feel like a date at all. Now I look at that night as a night that served to break the ice (and watch an amazing football game with some wings lol)
Wewon Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 It sounds like you're putting yourself out far too much financially. Try being more creative in your selection of activities. That being said, I'm a little hard pressed to be to tough on someone that is buying me food using a coupon. Its up to you to decide how you want to interpret her judging you for using a groupon. When I was younger I was extremely anxious over being judged by my dates, needless to say I didn't enjoy dating much. When I decided that I wouldn't feel bad if I weren't doing anything wrong things got better. 2
Wewon Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 To me, saving $ is good. If it were the other way around and it were her paying for me when we go somewhere (even if it's the first time), I wouldn't think anything about it. I'd actually think it's great. $80 isn't exactly pocket change! But she's a classy girl who seems kind of more on the old-fashioned side. I honestly don't know how she'd take it. Be true to yourself, everyone be damned. 3
Gershwin Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 (edited) I'm from the same age group, and I say use it! My date would mention whenever he could get cheap imax tickets & other deals. I say it's smart & where I come from (oz), it's the norm these days! I understand in the US, there's a coupon culture that's a bit looked down on. I still think it's different to groupon though! If you're worried, I'd just mention it when confirming the plan with her, ie "Cool, I have this groupon tickets that we can use for gokart session after. Should be fun!" Edited February 14, 2016 by Gershwin 3
SomeDude16 Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Use it. It shows you are financially responsible and took initiative to plan this date. Just make sure you use some of that $80 you save to buy her $10 worth of flowers. Win, Win. 2
Eighty_nine Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 I love a good deal and being creative enough to find one. I would actually like this because it would be a hint at compatibility for me. I want a partner who can make his dollar go far & maximize the fun outings and trips we can take together. 5
smackie9 Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Because I wanted to kind of let it be known that it was a date, but the feeling of "hey, this is definitely a date!" was weak because we're both kind of shy. That, combined with the fact that I've had too many instances where I'd date a girl and they'd later come back and be like "oh wait, we're dating? I thought we were friends!" led to me suggesting that we make our next meet-up an "official" date. I wanted to make sure it was clear what I wanted. Probably should've done it after the first time we got some dinner, but it was our first time ever hanging out really and it had a really friendly vibe to it. It didn't feel like a date at all. Now I look at that night as a night that served to break the ice (and watch an amazing football game with some wings lol) This explains a lot of why you started this thread...you lack some confidence there. You need to just let it be, and be forward. That will prevent any misinterpretation of your actions.
soleilesquire Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Nothing wrong with getting the most for your money. I would find anyone who was offended by it pretentious and materialistic. 3
BlueIris Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 I see nothing wrong with that at all. I wouldn’t want to date someone who was judgmental about it, so there is no downside to using it.
FitzChiv Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Personally if a guy was to use a coupon on a date I would be pleased, but I'm not particularly materialistic and very careful with money myself, so I guess it comes down to compatibility, I am a 26 year old woman if that makes any difference 1
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