What to think if she has sex with different guys when single?

[johnpennington]

I really like this girl. But Ive found out she's had sex with other guys, along with me. She claims that she really likes me now. I knew she was dating/having sex with one other guy, and now I found out she had sex with another guy who used to want to be with her. She found out he was cheating on his girlfriend with her, and so she cut him off. This girl says she doesn't do cheaters and doesn't believe in cheating.

 

While she says she's against cheating, should it be alarming that she has sex with multiple men when single?

[thecrucible]

I knew she was dating/having sex with one other guy, and now I found out she had sex with another guy who used to want to be with her. She found out he was cheating on his girlfriend with her, and so she cut him off. This girl says she doesn't do cheaters and doesn't believe in cheating.

 

While she says she's against cheating, should it be alarming that she has sex with multiple men when single?

 

She may not have known that the guy had a girlfriend. Some men lie about these things. Once a guy put the moves on me and I later found out he had a gf - luckily I had no attempt to pursue anything with him.

 

 

How long have you guys been seeing each for?

[ASG]

If she's single, she can do whatever she wants and it's really none of your business.

 

You may decide, however, that you don't want to date someone who doesn't have the same values as you, when it comes to sex. That's ok. But it still doesn't make her a pig, or anything of the sort. Just makes her a girl that doesn't share your values,

 

However, it seems to me you were ok with her casually seeing/sleeping with someone else. So I'd say that isn't your issue. So... what is? The fact that it was more than one? The fact that the guy had a girlfriend?

Edited February 13, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[johnpennington]

If she's single, she can do whatever she wants and it's really none of your business.

 

You may decide, however, that you don't want to date someone who doesn't have the same values as you, when it comes to sex. That's ok. But it still doesn't make her a pig, or anything of the sort. Just makes her a girl that doesn't share your values,

 

However, it seems to me you were ok with her casually seeing/sleeping with someone else. So I'd say that isn't your issue. So... what is? The fact that it was more than one? The fact that the guy had a girlfriend?

 

The other guy she was having sex with was an ex she had unresolved feelings for. It was one of those situations. She told me for a while it was just me and the ex, now I found out she was having sex with this guy. She had sex with him months ago but she didnt trust him so theyve been only hanging out as "friends" and then she just recently found out he was cheating on his girl with her so she cut him off.

 

If she was conflicted between me and the ex thats fine, but now she had sex with this guy and it makes me wonder who else is she having sex with? Yeah if youre single you can do what you want but it can still make you a pig if you do it enough

Edited February 13, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[TaraMaiden2]

.....Yeah if youre single you can do what you want but it can still make you a pig if you do it enough

 

How much is 'enough'?

And what gives you the right to judge?

If it puts you off, leave the relationship. If it doesn't, don't.

But what she does, she has every right to do, without you name-calling.

 

Does she know you consider her to be a potential 'pig'?