millybell Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 I just had my cosmetic surgery done few days ago. Right before the surgery, we went over briefly how the surgery is going to be done and stuff, and he asked me where I am from(he's office is in MA and I live in FL), what I do for living. This part I don't bother much a doctor could ask his patients some get to know questions, not a big deal. In the middle of the surgery the nurse asked him about new condo..since it really was a minor surgery I let them talk..and they were having a whole convo about renovation in his condo. I studied real estate so I made a few comments, gave some tips. n he started telling me the whole stories about how he regrets his new condo, bc his future kids wont really be able to play around in a condo, asking my opinion about raising kids, he whinned about not having a wife, how he wants to find the right girl asap. we talked the whole time 1 1/2hr of surgery so there's been hell lot of talk, but to make it simple, he basically was telling me he needs a wife who can take care him and kinda bragging about what he got..like his condo w nice view, expensive furnishing n stuff, not in materialistic ******* way tho lol and he asked me if I'm married, single, have a baby, why am i not in a relationship. then he asked us (the nurse n me) dont girls eventually want a prince charming, like a guy with money so she can be spoiled, and I didn't make a comment on this part bc i felt there's a lot to talk about that issue lol n i didnt want to bother, but he's so determined to hear what I have to say about it. and he asked me what I look for in a guy. told me a story about his female friend used to live in MA is now married to a guy from FL. so this is pretty much what i remember. he wasn't flirting or anything that makes me uncomfortable or so. but am i paranoid..? what u think? thanks
Redhead14 Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 I just had my cosmetic surgery done few days ago. Right before the surgery, we went over briefly how the surgery is going to be done and stuff, and he asked me where I am from(he's office is in MA and I live in FL), what I do for living. This part I don't bother much a doctor could ask his patients some get to know questions, not a big deal. In the middle of the surgery the nurse asked him about new condo..since it really was a minor surgery I let them talk..and they were having a whole convo about renovation in his condo. I studied real estate so I made a few comments, gave some tips. n he started telling me the whole stories about how he regrets his new condo, bc his future kids wont really be able to play around in a condo, asking my opinion about raising kids, he whinned about not having a wife, how he wants to find the right girl asap. we talked the whole time 1 1/2hr of surgery so there's been hell lot of talk, but to make it simple, he basically was telling me he needs a wife who can take care him and kinda bragging about what he got..like his condo w nice view, expensive furnishing n stuff, not in materialistic ******* way tho lol and he asked me if I'm married, single, have a baby, why am i not in a relationship. then he asked us (the nurse n me) dont girls eventually want a prince charming, like a guy with money so she can be spoiled, and I didn't make a comment on this part bc i felt there's a lot to talk about that issue lol n i didnt want to bother, but he's so determined to hear what I have to say about it. and he asked me what I look for in a guy. told me a story about his female friend used to live in MA is now married to a guy from FL. so this is pretty much what i remember. he wasn't flirting or anything that makes me uncomfortable or so. but am i paranoid..? what u think? thanks Well, the subject matter was probably at little too "deep", however, it is fairly common practice for doctors, dentists to keep the patient engaged and distracted to some degree from the procedure especially if there is any pain involved. I doubt he was hitting on you, there was an assistant present and they engaged in conversation as well about this. Most doctors will have an assistant present for the purpose of protecting themselves from allegations of improper behavior besides giving surgical assistance. He's embarking on a search and wants input from lots of sources and he has a captive audience . . .
truth_seeker Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 My guess he was making conversation to pass time while doing the surgery... but you never know. You could test the waters with an email to him thanking him for doing a great job with the surgery, and include either: A) some tips about real estate (kinda boring) B) link him to an article about rich men finding wives (something hilarious) See how he responds. It might open the door to something more?
truth_seeker Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 Let me share a personal experience that happened at my Doctor's office. I went in for a check up as I wasn't feeling well. Doctor was unavailable so one of his nurse assistant's saw me. While she's conducting the examination I had my keys on the table next to me. On my key chain I have a key card for a store I frequent. I didn't think anything of it then but she mentions I get something at the store that might help me. I told her I would go probably the next day. I go to the store the next day, I see her there. Now, maybe it was coincidence, but I thought that was just a bit coincidental. We don't talk. I get what I need and leave. I have a follow up and mention about going to the store to get something that day. Guess who is there when I'm at the store just happening to grab something for herself? I'm not kidding. I was freaked. She was a nice woman but what got me creeped out was she had all of my personal and medical information and I felt very vulnerable. I knew not much about her but at her finger tips she had all my info. From that point on I made mandatory visits scheduled with my Doctor. If he wasn't available I would cancel and reschedule. My point is your Doc OP may be a nice guy but he's got all your info and you don't have much on him. Think about that before you get ideas about making moves.
ses Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 Considering you were a patient of his I wouldn't touch him within a ten foot pole due to the possible ethical implications. I can just envision a HIPAA case if the relationship were to sour between you two. Best not to take that chance. There may also be a policy prohibiting romantic relationships between current/former patients and physicians at the hospital or practice. At your own risk, if you were to pursue a relationship with him, I would wait a while to initiate any non-platonic contact. A good doc should have an excellent bedside manner to encourage trust between the patient and provider. 2
Erik30 Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 Seems really unprofessional and inappropriate of him to be hitting on one of his patients during surgery. He's probably the type of guy who uses "being a doctor with a lot of money" to attract women. 1
upnorth Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 As a nurse...my first thought is that whole conversation sounds weird, to be honest. However, it is common practice like someone else said to engage in conversation to distract , and I've witnessed other health care professionals engage in banter I find innapropiate. ..I don't know...he just sounds like he was talking himself up to be honest. Full of himself. Had I been the nurse I would have quite likely been rolling my eyes... I'm guessing things can't be too different in the US...here, there are very strict ethic codes which prevent staff from hitting on patients.
d0nnivain Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 While it was an odd topic & bit too personal I think he was just making conversation, not hitting on you. In a setting where you are the patient & he's the doctor it would be unethical & possibly illegal for him to date you. If you bump into him in a social setting, that would be a different story Until then assume it's nothing.
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