Zahara Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 And people like your ex, have a reset button. That means they reappear like nothing every happened hoping to just skirt over the issue so that they don't have to take accountability for their actions. When you accept them back, that teaches them that you'll tolerate their behavior. She already warned you that you will not dictate her choices. Nothing changes.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 Giving her a second chance is foolish. You know that. Don't let Valentine's Day loneliness get the best of you. You have fundamental incompatibilities. You were disrespected. Period. She is manipulating you with silly V-Day pictures. Honestly, she is how old? Her emotional maturity is stunted. She thinks she behave like a tool and then love-bomb you back; that should tell you everything you need to know about her level of respect for you or the relationship. HINT: she doesn't have any.
Author soulforge Posted February 14, 2016 Author Posted February 14, 2016 I guess today has been hard, because its v day... and my emotions are a bit all over the place.. I am sure she is hurting too.. one pic she sent was of a heart with plasters on it.. I truly think she is oblivious to how she treated & behaved last night.. i know 6 or 7 months is not a very long time, but i felt a real connection with her, and wanted to settle down with her, so this is hard for me.. I know what you guys are saying makes sense.. if she treated me like that once, then sh3 certainly can again.. Also how can i be with a girl, who will do exactly as she pleases, without considering my feelings.. I hope i can stay strong, and keep ignoring her
Zahara Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 I guess today has been hard, because its v day... and my emotions are a bit all over the place.. It's just another hyped up day. That's all it is. I am sure she is hurting too.. one pic she sent was of a heart with plasters on it.. Any idiot can send you a pic. It's very easy. Pay attention to how they treat you. That's what's important. I truly think she is oblivious to how she treated & behaved last night.. That's even worse. At 49 and no self-awareness or the ability to be reflective of one's actions. I hope i can stay strong, and keep ignoring her It seems you are ignoring everyone's advice to block her. At this point, you're the only one that can help yourself.
Simon Phoenix Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 She sent me a picture today... It said, Happy Valetines Day To One Of My Very Best Friends! Also she sent a pic of a heart, with plasters on it... meaning its been hirt i guess.. I feel like talking to her Then do it. You obviously want to because you refuse to block her, so you might as well do it and confirm to her that you're her footstool. Since you seem to thrive off the drama (hence not blocking) you might as well just talk to her. What you are doing right now is pretty counterproductive -- you're keeping yourself in the muck and treating No Contact as a wait-out game, trying to force her to apologize. Do No Contact properly and block and stop contributing to the drama. If she wants to apologize (and truly apologize) you blocking her won't prevent that. Get it together man. 1
Scarlett.O'hara Posted February 14, 2016 Posted February 14, 2016 I stand by what I said. She treated you like s*** on her shoe in front of an audience, and actually encouraged her friend to talk down to you as well. It was vile, and yet she never once offered an apology. The only messages she has sent have been meaningless, including the heart with a plasters on it. Anyway, I can see now that you want her back so I won't say anymore. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
emi Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 Thats **** way to treat you . Even when my bf made me super mad or annoyed until the point i wanna chew his head off or really wanna hurt him by saying something mean but still we do all our arguement, tough conversation behind closed door. What between us stay between us. 49 years old woman and yet she behaves like a child. I know you feel crap. But thats no way to treat a man. And you seems to be a decent one. So why settle?
Frank13 Posted February 20, 2016 Posted February 20, 2016 She sent me a picture today... It said, Happy Valetines Day To One Of My Very Best Friends! Are you two romanticallly involved or do you just think you are? It's Valentine's Day and she refers to you as a best friend, and not even here best friend , just one of her best friends. No wonder she disrespects you. You are nothing but one of several of her buddies. If there was ever a reason to dump someone and go no contact this is it yet you can't wait to show her what a pathetic and gutless person you are without one shred of sellf resect by crawling back for more abuse. You are nothing but a punching bag to her.
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