Lovefiercely Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 (edited) The first exchange of stuff happened right after the break up (he initiated) and I requested that he leave my things at my friend's house which he lives near. The second time was two weeks later when I got an email from him wanting to return other stuff he had found. This email also had an apology for him acting really mean to me when breaking up and explaining why he was so angry and defensive. He hoped that I was doing well and said he would leave the things again at my friend's house. I really don't want to have any contact, but I felt like I had to say something, so I just replied with a "Thank you." Recently he contacted me again via email saying he found two more items and that he could either leave it at my friend's house (like he had in the past) or bring them over to my place. Again, he hoped that I was doing well and actually signed his name to the email. I can see why he keeps finding things - he is kind of messy. But it's interesting how I got this last email the day I decided to erase all of his emails to me, including this last one. Somehow, I got the strength to finally do it. I realized that I didn't want the stuff back (he can throw it away for all I care) and had some revelations on my travels. The break up catalyzed my traveling [] and one epiphany I had was that my love should never be met with anger or hatred. And that I could understand where that anger or hatred within that other person was coming from, and even have compassion for it, but did not have to invite it into my life. Having compassion for others means really having compassion for myself FIRST. This is not to deny that I don't love him -- I still do. But I love myself first. I have to. Edited February 13, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Locations redacted
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