rickyhayward Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 Hello, so basically I've matched with a girl from Tinder and have been speaking for a week now and have asked to meet her this Sunday to which she agreed however, I'm extremely nervous due to past experience such as meeting a girl I was talking to and then after meeting she said she didn't really like how I look and that was the end of that. I'm worried she'll do the same and just won't take any interest to me when I'd absolutely love to become serious with her as she's absolutely beautiful and seems a great girl. So does anyone have any tips for meeting someone the first time and as it's in Milton Keynes, what sort of things to do as I don't want to over-do it just incase she isn't actually interested in me and she's stuck wanting to go home.. Thanks!
Gaeta Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 Hello, so basically I've matched with a girl from Tinder and have been speaking for a week now and have asked to meet her this Sunday to which she agreed however, I'm extremely nervous due to past experience such as meeting a girl I was talking to and then after meeting she said she didn't really like how I look and that was the end of that. That is the name of the game if you do online dating. No there is nothing you can do to avoid this except putting up many recent pictures of yourself, as accurate as possible. The rest is out of your hands. she's absolutely beautiful and seems a great girl. How do you know all that, you have not met her yet. That's how people get disappointed, they put on a pedestal someone they have not even met yet. She may be nothing like her picture or her personality may be very unpleasant. Tone it down. So does anyone have any tips for meeting someone the first time and as it's in Milton Keynes, what sort of things to do as I don't want to over-do it just incase she isn't actually interested in me and she's stuck wanting to go home.. Thanks! Just shower, shave, put your best shirt on. Be nice, smile, don't say anything negative about anything. If you hit it off then set a second date for in a few days. Anticipation is gold. Don't turn a first meeting into a 6 hour date. 2
Buddhist Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 The thing is, if she doesn't like you (for whatever reason) she doesn't like you. We all put our best foot forward when meeting potential dates and sometimes it just doesn't work out. Thinking that you somehow blew it and it could have worked out, doesn't help. Maybe there was just nothing you could have done at all to change that situation. So relax, go and meet up with her and see how it goes. The fact you're invested in the outcome won't change the outcome at all. The craziness of dating is that people typically over analyse everything and somehow blame themselves when things just don't gel. When in actual fact it may have nothing to do with them at all. Unless you're turning up stinking like you don't shower, looking like a hobo and swearing your head off, I think we can eliminate any obvious reasons why you might 'blow it'. If it doesn't work out, maybe one or both of you weren't feeling it, and there is just nothing you can do about that at all. 1
Arieswoman Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 rickyhayward, This is why I was a big fan of "coffee dates". I used to arrange to meet guys from OLD in town on the same day I was meeting my girlfriends for lunch. If it didn't work out I had somewhere to go on to. I also felt safer meeting strangers in a public place. I would say keep it short the first time. If it works out you can suggest another meeting. Good luck !
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