gorf Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 (edited) About us: Been dating her 2-3 weeks. Shes very attractive and flirts a lot. Im no supermodel, but Im confident and Im somewhat flirty. I don't take it anywhere, I don't bring girls home etc. Were getting to know each other a lot better and communication is deepening. I know she has lots of friends. The other night she's at work and asks me to bring her coffee and stay to keep her company, so of course I do. Here we go: She goes away to get something and Im standing next to her bag and stuff and looking for things to fiddle with, out in the open see this folded piece of paper. So I pick it up. I see a guys name and a phone number. Put it back down. She comes back and grabs her bag so we can leave and hang out, I say "got all your stuff" and she says yes, I look down and the paper is gone. I never brought it up. So.... We hang out, kinda snuggle and chat, ready to leave we kiss and I pull back shes like "kiss me more" and I say "I dunnoooo..." look her right in the eyes and say "can I trust you?" she says yes. So I kiss her on the cheek and we part. Then she sends me this long text "I really like you I hope you trust me bla bla bla etc" OK so this number: a friend? maybe. A guy who gave her his, big surprise, but why didn't she crumple it up and throw it away? I dunno. I want a girl I can trust who doesnt fool around. Im not stalking her every move, I dont know what she does when Im not around. Maybe she's playing me, shes a slut, its a test? How should I handle this?? Sorry for the book, I like details. Edited February 12, 2016 by gorf
Fruitee Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Why dont you ask her about the number? Tell her you saw it. What was it. I have like 1000 pieces of papers like that e.g. my doctors always writes me notes like that with just name and number. Like go and see this specialist etc. It might be nothing. On the other hand. You have been dating couple of weeks. Dont think too much. You will find out soon enough if she is serious about you. 1
VeveCakes Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Right now there isn't much to handle. You are just starting to hang out and not exclusive, she ethnically could date other people. That being said, it could be ANYONES number. Friend, business, bank, insurance, hair, car, etc!! Don't focus on the number, keep doing what you are doing and when you reach exclusivity, then you can genuinely ask "whose number" if you see one again.
Redhead14 Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 About us: Been dating her 2-3 weeks. Shes very attractive and flirts a lot. Im no supermodel, but Im confident and Im somewhat flirty. I don't take it anywhere, I don't bring girls home etc. Were getting to know each other a lot better and communication is deepening. I know she has lots of friends. The other night she's at work and asks me to bring her coffee and stay to keep her company, so of course I do. Here we go: She goes away to get something and Im standing next to her bag and stuff and looking for things to fiddle with, out in the open see this folded piece of paper. So I pick it up. I see a guys name and a phone number. Put it back down. She comes back and grabs her bag so we can leave and hang out, I say "got all your stuff" and she says yes, I look down and the paper is gone. I never brought it up. So.... We hang out, kinda snuggle and chat, ready to leave we kiss and I pull back shes like "kiss me more" and I say "I dunnoooo..." look her right in the eyes and say "can I trust you?" she says yes. So I kiss her on the cheek and we part. Then she sends me this long text "I really like you I hope you trust me bla bla bla etc" OK so this number: a friend? maybe. A guy who gave her his, big surprise, but why didn't she crumple it up and throw it away? I dunno. I want a girl I can trust who doesnt fool around. Im not stalking her every move, I dont know what she does when Im not around. Maybe she's playing me, shes a slut, its a test? How should I handle this?? Sorry for the book, I like details. You've only been dating her for 2 -3 weeks. She doesn't owe you anything yet. Have you asked her for exclusivity or to be your girlfriend? If not, she's free to date others. If you've been intimate, I would make sure you on the same page in terms of exclusivity at least. You say something like "I like you very much and I'm not interested in seeing other people now". And, then let her talk.
Maggie4 Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Referral for a gardener? Could be anything. And you can't ask without sounding controlling or nosy. Just have to get to know her more and see how it goes.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Referral for a gardener? Could be anything. And you can't ask without sounding controlling or nosy. Just have to get to know her more and see how it goes. Agreed. It could be a friend's new cell number, a good hair stylist, a professional connection, anything. I wouldn't jump to any conclusions yet. Nor would I question her on it at this point. You're just getting to know her. See how the next few weeks go. 1
Author gorf Posted February 12, 2016 Author Posted February 12, 2016 (edited) Referral for a gardener? Could be anything. And you can't ask without sounding controlling or nosy. Just have to get to know her more and see how it goes. Definitely possible. Thanks so much for your reply maggie. I might just be over-reacting. She's definitely moving us in the bf/gf category, shes always coming up with things we should do together, and shes pretty physical, no sex, just physical in other ways. Could be anything, you're right. The note said (different words) 6- Bill [phone number] I dunno. I told her this morning along the lines of "I have a hard time trusting ppl I dont know well. Ill trust you. I like you a lot too. So what you up to today?" She just texted me back as Im writing this to say "good napping all day, time to get actual work done" we work together, so maybe Ill say hi to her, maybe I wont have a chance. So if I see her I shouldnt bring it up?? Im pretty direct. What if she asks why I asked her about if I could trust her? She knows I picked up on something. Shes going to ask, I know it. What should I say? Edited February 12, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author gorf Posted February 12, 2016 Author Posted February 12, 2016 Thanks, I guess I wont bring it up. But I know shes going to ask why I felt that way. She knows I picked up on something. Likely Ill see her tonight for at least a few minutes. Im almost positive sheill ask something. So what should I say?
VeveCakes Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Pretty sure that's an employee of virgin Mobil so maybe she has to pay her bill lol
Redhead14 Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Are you sure that paper wasn't on the table when she put her bag down? Are you sure it was hers? She picked up her bag and may have just picked it up with her stuff . . . I'd be careful here. Technically, I'd say it's none of your business right now anyway nothing has been declared yet. I don't think I'd appreciate someone looking at my personal items that I've only been dating for a couple of weeks . . . 1
Maggie4 Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Don't say anything. She already texted you saying "I hope you can trust me". That means she has formed her own idea of what you meant. If she asks why, just say something vague like "I am getting to like you a lot, that's why I want to know." Do you remember what the number was? Can you google it? What's 6- ? 1
Author gorf Posted February 14, 2016 Author Posted February 14, 2016 Thanks all! I let it go and that was a good idea
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