soph-walker Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 ...whilst on a date with a guy. Any suggestions? I'm curious to see what things fellow women do that build tension and also what men find appealing! I personally will look at a guy's lips/mouth area if we're sat in close proximity.
smackie9 Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 wear sexy clothes, high heels, learn the bend and snap, flirt and tease, light touching. eye contact, be submissive, feminine, lean in to talk, show cleavage, etc. Sexy cat eyes.....it's all about the eyes. 1
katiegrl Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 To me it's all about the energy. I dunno, when the chemistry/energy between you is right, I never had to do a damn thing. Hell I could be in my sweats with hair in pony tail...and the sexual tension was so think you could cut it with a knife. I dislike anything contrived, and as much as I respect smackie, the things she suggested sound very contrived... and forced. Sexual tension shouldn't be forced by what you're wearing, high heels, the bend and snap...lol or anything else. It is what it is....and either it's there or not. 6
hasaquestion Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 ...whilst on a date with a guy. Any suggestions? I'm curious to see what things fellow women do that build tension and also what men find appealing! I personally will look at a guy's lips/mouth area if we're sat in close proximity. Just in general respond to their cues. If he's getting closer to you in some way give him a bit back. When he shares something share something. When he touches you lean in more. Go with the dance. If its going to be at a square table, sitting in the next to them position instead of across from them is ideal. If there's a TV or something to look at use that as an excuse to suggest sitting that way. Sitting next to someone is so much better for escalating than across from them.
Author soph-walker Posted February 12, 2016 Author Posted February 12, 2016 Just in general respond to their cues. If he's getting closer to you in some way give him a bit back. When he shares something share something. When he touches you lean in more. Go with the dance. If its going to be at a square table, sitting in the next to them position instead of across from them is ideal. If there's a TV or something to look at use that as an excuse to suggest sitting that way. Sitting next to someone is so much better for escalating than across from them. Definitely agree with your last sentence in particular. The table really does distance any tension or closeness! What about conversation guys, is talking about sex a bit ott?
jen1447 Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Definitely agree with your last sentence in particular. The table really does distance any tension or closeness! What about conversation guys, is talking about sex a bit ott? Who's on the other side of you and why do you want to escalate?
SwordofFlame Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Definitely agree with your last sentence in particular. The table really does distance any tension or closeness! What about conversation guys, is talking about sex a bit ott? A tip is to sit at the bar instead of at a table where you usually are sitting across from one another like a job interview.
Author soph-walker Posted February 12, 2016 Author Posted February 12, 2016 Who's on the other side of you and why do you want to escalate? Just curious to get a glimpse of other's findings..
smackie9 Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 To me it's all about the energy. I dunno, when the chemistry/energy between you is right, I never had to do a damn thing. Hell I could be in my sweats with hair in pony tail...and the sexual tension was so think you could cut it with a knife. I dislike anything contrived, and as much as I respect smackie, the things she suggested sound very contrived... and forced. Sexual tension shouldn't be forced by what you're wearing, high heels, the bend and snap...lol or anything else. It is what it is....and either it's there or not. They were mere suggestions, not do all of it in one sitting lol. If one has trouble getting there, nothing wrong with adding things to your arsenal. Not everyone is gifted in sending out a sexual vibe. hey sometimes just plain old friendly bantering can get things rolling. 1
katiegrl Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Btw men love the bend and snap lol. Good to know....I'll have to start practicing that! :bunny:
jen1447 Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Just curious to get a glimpse of other's findings.. Ok but do you see how our suggestions might vary depending on if you're dating a porn star or a priest?
Jabron1 Posted February 13, 2016 Posted February 13, 2016 Depends on how aggressive or not the woman wants to be. Smackie's post is the classic man-eater. Typically, I'm the one to push things, and I expect the woman to resist and react. The tension is the natural result of the man/woman vibe, and I just have fun with it. 1
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