Girlfriend told me her previous lover came by to see her at work. Any thoughts?

[dandyrandy]

Okay my girlfriend works as a waitress at a diner. She came home yesterday and told me that her previous lover came by the diner to see her. My question is should I be concerned? She does not ever talk to the guy but she did tell him a long time ago where she worked at. When she told me I just pretend to brush it off like it wasnt a big deal. I have been burned in the past by this kind of stuff but that was different women and different people. My girlfriend is very loyal but I do know somethings about this previous lover of hers. He got married and that is the reason they stopped dating years ago but there is more to it about the guy. He is on an adult cheaters website and I feel like he is randomly talking to her to see if she is an option for his cheating. I dont want to tell her she cant see her friends especially since she does not have very many friends at all but this guy I think is something more concerning I think than just a friend. Any thoughts would be appreciated and thanks!

[big dog]

Depends on how she handled it.... what'd she say to him ? What'd he want? etc.... She can't help it if he came into that restaurant... what she does from here's a different story though.

[d0nnivain]

No you should not be concerned. She works in a place of public accommodation. She can't control who shows up

 

She told you about it. She was open & honest with nothing to hide and no game playing.

 

I had an unexpected hour long conversation with an EX the other day. It certainly doesn't mean I'm leaving my husband. I did tell him about the call. It was a fluke thing; I called someone else & my EX happened to be there.

[seekingpeaceinlove]

She told you about him showing up.. out of respect for you. She didn't have to tell you anything. You should be happy that you have such an honest girlfriend and such a transparent relationship.

 

You say your gf is loyal so why let YOUR insecurities create any drama in your relationship. You should be loving your gf a little bit more for this.

 

Work on your resolving your own issues regarding insecurity and drop it.