LookAtThisPOst Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Didn't know how to exactly entitle this. A male friend of mine all of a sudden out of the blue had an instant girlfriend. He moved away from our city to the mid-west, but somehow reconnected with someone a few states away. He said he knew her for "almost all his life." Since the 7th grade actually. Said he would touch base on occasion, but the timing was never right. I've never been one to retroactively go after someone as usually my scenario doesn't mirror theirs when they attempt to reach back to a high school crush or whatever or a situation where it was a couple of years. But with me it was more lack of interest on their part as opposed, "Hm, she blew me off years ago, I'll wait a couple of years and ask her out again to see if she changed her mind." But when I attempt to do that, still nothing. Some may say, "There's always been an attraction, but they never dated because the timing wasn't right or whatever." Usually I call BS on that and write it off as being blown off as opposed to something legit that's why I never follow-up anymore. But I'm finding out that it's not uncommon when single people are meeting new people, they eventually give up on meeting NEW people, and try to retroactively reconnect with some old high school crush to see if they are available or divorced their spouse of 20 years. "Hm, I wonder if my old high school crush divorced her prom date? See what she's up to!" I think what happens is, their current dating pool has dried up, so they are crossing their fingers to see if old flames or crushes are available now decades later?
d0nnivain Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Almost 20 years after I graduated I found myself at a HS homecoming football game. It was in the days immediately post 9/11 so I think I was looking for safe & familiar. I reconnected with a guy there. We hadn't interacted in HS but ended up dating for about 2+ years.
b-Shock Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 I think most people have at least thought about their old flings in a "what might have been" type of scenario. I think that's where it stays for the majority. It's certainly not something they act on like your friend has. I hope it works out!
oldshirt Posted February 15, 2016 Posted February 15, 2016 If single people have an attraction, comfort, common interests etc with each other, this it is fair game whether they originally met last week or on the playground 25 years ago.
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