Jessica1234 Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 Hi! I met this guy on tinder and we talked for about 2 weeks before he asked me to meet up, we seemed to get along well. We went for a drink and a bite to eat on the first date. I cusually introduced myself with kisses on the cheeks but felt very nervous about meeting him. The date lasted for about 1hour45minutes but I'm not sure that it went that well. First of all nerves got into me and I regret not talking and expressing myself as much, he probably thought I was boring or uninterested. He was very talkative, maybe a bit too much lol talked about his family, nothing too detailed, work, passions and friends. Not sure if he was nervous or uninterested. At some point he checked his watch so I figured he wanted to leave. I causually asked him if everything was OK and if he had to go. He told me no that we could stay if I wanted to and so we did for another 30 minutes. The date did feel a bit awkward for my part at least but I'd like to give it another shot I mean we do have a lot in common and maybe nerves just kicked in ? He's from Sweden so not sure what their dating etiquette is. The date ended with us walking together until we parted ways and said have a nice evening to each other with a kiss of the cheeks. He did pay the bill and said it was all good when I asked him if he was alright to get it. He texted me about an hour later saying he hoped I got home alright and that he wasn't sure if that's we both had in mind as a first meeting/encounter..then he said thank you nonetheless for the pleasant evening. What do you think that means ? Would he have followed up so quickly if he wasn't interested? He hasn't followed up since for a second date, its only been 2 days and I'm planning on waiting it out. How long should I wait before texting him? 1
Lorenza Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Swedish men are polite, punctual and... well, it's pretty difficult to understand if they're interested in you or not. I've dated quite a few, but it was always pretty casual in the beginning, not much sparks, pretty careful etc. AND they're usually not into pursuing a woman. Hope it's a helpful info 1
angel.eyes Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Did you respond to his text that night? Or are you "waiting it out" after not responding? It's not clear. If you did respond that night, what did you say? 1
Author Jessica1234 Posted February 12, 2016 Author Posted February 12, 2016 @angel.eyes Yes I did respond that night. I politely thanked him for the nice evening too and told that I got hone alright as he asked. 1
angel.eyes Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Did you at any point, either on the date or afterwards, tell him that you were interested in seeing him again? 1
d0nnivain Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 I agree that the ball is in your court. Your message telling him you got home that night was polite but not necessarily a sign of interest. Do reach out again. Perhaps ask him out. 1
smudge21 Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 If I were him, I'd be waiting for you to contact me now... even if it's just to say hi or suggest another meet up, or at least ask. It's up to you though - do you want to? 1
Author Jessica1234 Posted February 17, 2016 Author Posted February 17, 2016 I finally decided to text him over the weekend and we text each other back and forth since then, mostly him initiating . he hasn't asked me out on a second date however, should I simply ask him to hang out? 1
Satu Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 If you'd like a second date, be upfront about it. Suggest it. Fortune favours the bold.
Gaeta Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 I finally decided to text him over the weekend and we text each other back and forth since then, mostly him initiating . he hasn't asked me out on a second date however, should I simply ask him to hang out? That night when he text you, you should have said : Yes I got home safe thank you, I enjoyed my time with you and it would be my pleasure to do this again. Yes, ask him if he's like to 'insert activity' this weekend, and set up a time and place.
Cinnamonstix Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 I'm confused as to why everyone is telling you to ask the guy out. Did you not reply back to his text about having a pleasant evening?
truth_seeker Posted February 18, 2016 Posted February 18, 2016 Can we let go of the games? She likes him. She wants to got out on another date with him. All she has to do is ask him. [slamming my head on my desk]
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