yummycheese Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 So basically, met this girl online, we got off to a great start, we talk all the time, in depth. We're attracted to eachother, we sext, she sends me pictures, but we also talk about cute dates and seeing if we're good for eachother. Cutesy things you know, cuddling, going for food, meeting her family, as well as sex. So super early on, like within the first 10 days, we agree to meet and hang out and possibly go back to hers, the day arrives, and she said she totally forgot and she actually got a job the day before (which is true), and that she's working on the day. I asked to reschedule and she says she has to check her work rota. She seemed sorry though, sincerely. Problem is, every time I've mentioned meeting up and doing something, she replies with something like "I wish!" or like "Awww that would be great!" and various emojis and then changes the subject or talks about something else. It's been around two and a half weeks now since we started talking. We both go to university and she works now too, and she also lives an hour and a half away from me, but I'm just worried that we're never going to meet or anything. Any advice?
SwordofFlame Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 If she wanted to meet you, she would meet you. Forget her and move on. 5
Larryville Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 TC, I’ve experienced this on numerous occasions. Basically it’s called a “false start.” The initial (on site) emails, personal emails, phone calls and maybe even the first date might go amazingly great but yes crashes in an instant. Some of this has to do with the self-confidence of the woman… if she has had some bad experiences in the past and the dreaded “you are too good to be true” tag. Basically meaning that she does not believe she deserves to be with a decent guy. Exactly why the other advice given “move on” quickly is best… you will grind your teeth trying to force yourself to give it a shot but you would be wasting your time. The other thing guys need to consider, a good chunk of women who are on OLD see it as simply an entertainment mechanism. They are not at all trying to look for a guy, it is an evening activity to alleviate boredom so if a semi-decent dude “likes” a pic or send an intriguing message she might toy with a dude for a moment or two but… Some women just want to know that they are “desired” and if playing online helps boost their ego then cool for them. Don’t spend so much time and energy on one individual. Took me years to get to this point of understanding. 1
smackie9 Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 I agree.....if there is any hesitation, they ain't that interested. Never try to force anything....if it doesn't go at a pace you expect....move on.
Josh_7798 Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 Forget about her and just move on, been in this situation before and honestly you'll be wasting your time waiting around.
b-Shock Posted February 12, 2016 Posted February 12, 2016 OLD? Do you prefer this to meeting girls face to face?
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