DatingDirection Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 (edited) Single men, what do you want in a relationship, please be specific? Looks? Personality? Income level? How they spend their free time? Views on life? I would really apprieciate your feedback. I don't have many male friends, and i'm new to dating. I'm in my early 30's, and I would like to have a great relationship one day, and a family of my own eventually. I would love to hear what men are looking for these days. Thank you. Edited February 11, 2016 by DatingDirection typo Link to post Share on other sites
loveweary11 Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 Looks Low Drama Stability (see low drama) Shated interests That's really it. Finding these in one person is not easy... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SwordofFlame Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 Great sex Low maintenance Some shared interests 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author DatingDirection Posted February 11, 2016 Author Share Posted February 11, 2016 Looks Low Drama Stability (see low drama) Shated interests That's really it. Finding these in one person is not easy... That's all great. Thank you. Could you please elaborate, what looks exactly, petite, tall, short, blond, slightly chubby, very thin? Stability? In what ways, for example? Interests? Skiing, philosophy, current events, sports? Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 Rather than conform to strangers' expectations that these men may not live up to themselves, the best way is to socialise with men and make male friends. Then you see what types you attract and are attracted to and where you are able to compromise. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author DatingDirection Posted February 11, 2016 Author Share Posted February 11, 2016 (edited) Rather than conform to strangers' expectations that these men may not live up to themselves, the best way is to socialise with men and make male friends. Then you see what types you attract and are attracted to and where you are able to compromise. That is a great suggestion, thank you, and I understand that importance of this too. Although i would like to understand, what men are looking for before they meet women, what is on their check lists? It's terrible to say check list, but let's face it, in some way, everyone has their own check list. Edited February 11, 2016 by DatingDirection typo Link to post Share on other sites
Larryville Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 In a healthy relationship… Guys look for Praise & Approval Respect Sexual Connection Emotional Intimacy Looks Low Drama – Mental stability Financial stability Shared interests Mental, emotional and intellectual depth That's all great. Thank you. Could you please elaborate, what looks exactly, petite, tall, short, blond, slightly chubby, very thin? Looks are subjective… For me projecting overall health, Lack of tattoos (especially breast tats) If you can’t wear a nice dress to a function I would invite you to (work/social) because you have neck, back, leg tats turnoff. Tats are not unique and a sign of poor body image and conformity. Why destroy a beautiful body for a temporary statement. Sense of style, casual is cool but if that is all you portray not cool. Does the woman like what SHE sees when she looks into a mirror? Self-confidence is sexy, not taking about any “diva” self-absorbed mindset. No matter how seemingly attractive a woman may think she is if the mind is not cool will show in her physical appearance. , petite, tall, short, blond, slightly chubby, very thin? You can be petite and have an amazing body but be broke, uneducated, mental and have the mindset of a serial killer… not attractive. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 That is a great suggestion, thank you, and I understand that importance of this too. Although i would like to understand, what men are looking for before they meet women, what is on their check lists? It's terrible to say check list, but let's face it, in some way, everyone has their own check list. You should only be concerned about guys you like. Not some random gezeers on the net, some of whom could be your father. Who cares what they think? You should see men as individuals 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 Looks are often what gets that first interest (from both sides) but it's whats inside that will keep that interest. For me, I always see a nice face, pretty smile, nice eyes. But then it will quickly switch to what she's like, how she is, how we get along. Her job or how much she earns is of no concern really, nor are her views, just as long as she's happy to chat about them and be open minded. I do like confident women - ones who, when in a restaurant, will ask for what they want (for example). Finally smart and quick witted is good too. However, everyone's different... some men just like boobs. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 Single men, what do you want in a relationship, please be specific? Looks? Healthy. While seemingly a no-brainer, things can get markedly sideways at my age and I've already done the caregiving thing so don't wish to reprise it for awhile. Personality? Sane is preferred. Income level? Self-sufficient. Modest lifestyle. How they spend their free time? Clear interests and passions that put a smile on her face. Views on life? It's a journey rather than a destination. I would really apprieciate your feedback. I don't have many male friends, and i'm new to dating. I'm in my early 30's, and I would like to have a great relationship one day, and a family of my own eventually. I would love to hear what men are looking for these days. Thank you.Men are all different, though you may find some commonalities due to demographics. As example, a young guy might answer those questions markedly differently than an older guy. I know I would have. Point being, we change in life and we are often a reflection of our socialization and social integration and social circle and strata. IMO, there is no magic formula rather trial and error and learning. My bet is you'll have a lot of fun in your 30's and make some valued life memories. Down the road, that's pretty cool to have, regardless of the outcome in the moment. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LostOnes05 Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 Looks- Athletic, takes care of herself, beautiful smile, relatively short, Personality- great sense of humor, intelligent, loving, understanding, compassionate, giving, accepting responsibility when wrong/ ability to apologize, disciplined Income level- not important to me as long as she isn't in crazy debt that isn't education related How they spend their free time- active lifestyle, introduces me to new things, willing to travel, can and likes to cook (we'd definitely do this together a lot), likes to read Views on life- no drama, willing to learn, accepting of differences among people Link to post Share on other sites
loveweary11 Posted February 11, 2016 Share Posted February 11, 2016 That's all great. Thank you. Could you please elaborate, what looks exactly, petite, tall, short, blond, slightly chubby, very thin? Stability? In what ways, for example? Interests? Skiing, philosophy, current events, sports? Those specifics will be different for every guy. Mine are: Close to 5' tall, thin with muscles creating curves, brown/black hair/eyes. Stability being no drama, which makes the relationship stable. No stupid girls who like to provoke situations where the guy has to step in and fight people, no severe mental problems. Interests? Unorthodox thinking/living, cooking local/organic, foraging, travel, music, art, etc.... These things will be different for every guy. Link to post Share on other sites
FadedSign52 Posted February 12, 2016 Share Posted February 12, 2016 Someone I am attracted to but who is not necessarily universally regarded as gorgeous (I've been with very beautiful women and all the attention they get can get on your nerves after a while - and not all of them deal with getting older well ) Someone who shares my core values with regards to religion, politics, how to raise kids. I couldn't care less about specific things like whether they like sushi or not - in the long term this is not important. Someone who is a kind and good soul Someone who is is able to hold a job Someone with no addition issues Someone who is a good communicator in relationships Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted February 12, 2016 Share Posted February 12, 2016 Looks are great initially. But sex appeal alone doesn't make a relationship. My GF is very loyal which is huge. She always has my back, remembers details, is very caring and generous, etc.. Plus she's very funny and sarcastic which I find incredibly sexy. Also, I like a woman that can push me outside my comfort zone and get me to try new things, motivate me to push even harder with my goals, etc.. Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted February 12, 2016 Share Posted February 12, 2016 Looks matter some...but not that much. I find personality drives me in a relationship. I want a relationship because I want companionship. Link to post Share on other sites
yxalitis Posted February 12, 2016 Share Posted February 12, 2016 Conversation Nothing else matters in the long run Link to post Share on other sites
Otter2569 Posted February 12, 2016 Share Posted February 12, 2016 Are you ready: Someone who is pretty (to me), kind, caring, fun, thoughtful, respectful, a good mother, a good personality, sense of humor, not afraid to get their hands dirty, stand up for themselves (not a doormat), has their own interest but is willing to share mine, common goals, ability to laugh, someone who is spiritual, artsy, fun, outgoing, secure in themselves, has a decent job, knows how to have fun, enjoys sex and isnt afraid to suggest things or try new things, someone who is community minded, knows how to dress / has a sense of fashion, doesnt have a substance abuse problem, someone who by their nature makes me want to be a better person, enjoys like, likes to travel, is forgiving, did i say likes sex (LOL) is EMOTIONALLY BALANCED AND STABLE. She doesnt exist by the way but thats my list (I am sure I forgot something) Link to post Share on other sites
RedRider600 Posted February 12, 2016 Share Posted February 12, 2016 Looks, personality, intelligence, sex....And most of all a woman with no kids and who is still in "sellable condition". Yes I am callous but that is reality....Dont want a woman who's been around, got three kids from three different fathers, and finally wants to settle down with Mr. Nice....It doesn't work that way....Only low mileage "vehicles" will be considered....... Link to post Share on other sites
Author DatingDirection Posted February 12, 2016 Author Share Posted February 12, 2016 Thank you for all of these responses. This is amazing. I have many qualities that all of you listed here. It made me realize, I am a great catch, and men aren't just looking for looks when it comes to a relationship. Although, I am an above average looking woman, im not the most gorgeous woman, but i am really attractive. I guess, because i don't get approached that often, and many men in my city are conservative, they pass by women, but don't look at them, it kind of makes me feel like im invisible. I saw a youtube video about how men feel about dating in my city. I live in a big Canadian city. They said, it's very hard to date in the city, many people are using technology to connect and not really for a relationship, but for a hook up. These men also said, that they've tried to start a conversation with women in real life, but immidiately get the cold shoulder for some reason. I don't know if im making sense here? Link to post Share on other sites
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