mikeylo Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 I guess he likes you and wants you to like him.He is probably getting obsessed with you. You running away from him gave him the satisfaction that you have noticed him so now he is trying to come in your way to make you start thinking about him ( that you are already ! ) Next time tag along a friend , dont go alone. If you have a boyfriend, go with him. If this guy has any romantic inclinations, your boyfriends presence should do the trick. Do take this guy seriously.Sometimes an innocent romantic feeling can turn into a bad obsession. 2
salparadise Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 No, I don't see him from time to time. I see him all the time. And when he is not walking behind me, he is following me in his car or showing up at the winery I always go to after work, whenever I'm there. I would like to think this is all coincidence but something just doesn't seem right about him. He is also a working man...dresses nice and would seem normal otherwise. He is just very, very strange in his behavior and very reserved, doesn't speak to anyone. And the fact that every time he sees my car and tries to get behind me is a bit weird to me. Also, the fact that he literally sat there in his car and waited until I came out the last time I saw him at the winery and drove away in what seemed in an angry manner is disturbing to me. Can't help but wonder what I did to this stranger that he is reacting in such an odd way. Well, your intuition should be honored. You said, "every time he sees my car and tries to get behind me," so you're confident that he actually tries to get behind you? This is exactly the kind of specific clue that I was talking about. How long did he wait in his car in the parking lot at the winery? I have no idea why he'd drive off like he was angry. You mean he sped away I presume? Do you think that he thought you noticed him for the first time? I don't think you've done anything. If he is stalking you then it's probably a sexual obsession, in which case you do need to identify him and report it to the police. Since you seem confident, take his license number and contact the police. You really should get proactive about getting to the bottom of it. 2
Author LatinGurl84 Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Well, your intuition should be honored. You said, "every time he sees my car and tries to get behind me," so you're confident that he actually tries to get behind you? This is exactly the kind of specific clue that I was talking about. How long did he wait in his car in the parking lot at the winery? I have no idea why he'd drive off like he was angry. You mean he sped away I presume? Do you think that he thought you noticed him for the first time? I don't think you've done anything. If he is stalking you then it's probably a sexual obsession, in which case you do need to identify him and report it to the police. Since you seem confident, take his license number and contact the police. You really should get proactive about getting to the bottom of it. Yes, he sped away...but not before we made eye contact and I kept looking at him as I was startled by his presence. He had this scary, serious look on his face...intense...
kztar Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Yes, he sped away...but not before we made eye contact and I kept looking at him as I was startled by his presence. He had this scary, serious look on his face...intense... Im sorry to tell you but im going to tell you something. You sound like the type of female to get raped. Seems like you are aware of your surroundings but at the same time you're not taking any drastic measures to prevent this. Wether this guy looks nice or not, def not your problem. He is clearly a threat. I live in NYC and I always look at everyone like they're a threat. Anyone gets too close or looks at me even in a weird way in the train which has happened, I make sure to make eye contact with them and kind of let them know that I am aware that they're looking at me and I don't like it. If I catch anyone following me, Im calling 911 ASAP. If anyone follows me on my car and I notice, you must believe that I will call 911 and drive to a secluded place and have the police surround the perimeter. Man this is a cruel world we live in. Most people are not nice. Take care! 2
preraph Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 You need to start keeping a log of everything, including his car make and tag number, but more importantly, write down every time you see him or his car and where. And then you need to go to the police. They may or may not do anything depending on that specific police in your town. But that guy is dangerous and obsessed and stalking you and he is liable to kidnap you one of these days. You've got to stop soft-peddling this and do something about it! If I was your dad, I'd already have come up behind him and kicked his rear end. 3
thefooloftheyear Posted March 15, 2016 Posted March 15, 2016 You need to start keeping a log of everything, including his car make and tag number, but more importantly, write down every time you see him or his car and where. And then you need to go to the police. They may or may not do anything depending on that specific police in your town. But that guy is dangerous and obsessed and stalking you and he is liable to kidnap you one of these days. You've got to stop soft-peddling this and do something about it! If I was your dad, I'd already have come up behind him and kicked his rear end. Pretty much this... I know its not PC, but if this is a true case of stalking, the most effective way to probably rid yourself of the problem is find the biggest, baddest looking friend or relative to walk with you...Tell the guy what this guy looks like and usually all it takes is a good stare down and the guy will disappear... Most of those guys are huge pussy's... TFY 2
anika99 Posted March 15, 2016 Posted March 15, 2016 I think you should err on the side of caution and start keeping a log and making note of details, however don't panic and let paranoia completely take over. On the one hand this guy sounds suspicious and on the other hand there could be a logical explanation for his behaviour. I work from home now but when I used to go into the office everyday then I definitely would notice the same strangers on my bus, getting of at my stop, walking down the same street as me, going to the same stores. Because we lived in the same neighbourhood, worked similar schedules, and frequented the same shops. As for still being at the winery when you came out several minutes later, that does sound scary. But have you never sat for a few minutes in your car, making a call, returning a text, or just looking for something. Maybe he had just made a call to someone and had an angry conversation with them. That would explain why he was still there and why he sped off mad, but of course that is just speculation. Keep a detailed log because if you do go to the police they are going to need some evidence. 1
whichwayisup Posted March 15, 2016 Posted March 15, 2016 Yes, he sped away...but not before we made eye contact and I kept looking at him as I was startled by his presence. He had this scary, serious look on his face...intense... GO to the cops, tell them what is going on, give them description of what he looks like, his car model and license plate number. Get a video recorder set up in your car (front and back) so you can record him following you around. You can directly drive to the police station next time he follows you in the car. TELL your family, friends, co workers what is going on because this is creepy and could escalate some day. Better to be prepared, safe and know the cops are aware of his behavior. Don't confront him, just be aware of your surroundings, especially at night. 1
scorpiogirl Posted March 15, 2016 Posted March 15, 2016 Ok, so what more do you need to happen before you call the police to check him out? By the time this guy shows up at your door, it's going to be too late. You seem very calm about him knowing where you live. I'm struggling to understand why you post about it here for over a month but take no further steps. I've been followed by several men in several countries but I haven't let it continue for more than a few hours. Even for such a short time, it's damn scary. Why have you not called the police yet? 3
stillafool Posted March 15, 2016 Posted March 15, 2016 No, I don't see him from time to time. I see him all the time. And when he is not walking behind me, he is following me in his car or showing up at the winery I always go to after work, whenever I'm there. I would like to think this is all coincidence but something just doesn't seem right about him. He is also a working man...dresses nice and would seem normal otherwise. He is just very, very strange in his behavior and very reserved, doesn't speak to anyone. And the fact that every time he sees my car and tries to get behind me is a bit weird to me. Also, the fact that he literally sat there in his car and waited until I came out the last time I saw him at the winery and drove away in what seemed in an angry manner is disturbing to me. Can't help but wonder what I did to this stranger that he is reacting in such an odd way. Maybe you need to stop posting this stuff here and get his license plate number and go down to your local police department and tell them what you've told us and see what they say. I don't know how anyone here can help you. 3
stillafool Posted March 15, 2016 Posted March 15, 2016 I guess he likes you and wants you to like him.He is probably getting obsessed with you. You running away from him gave him the satisfaction that you have noticed him so now he is trying to come in your way to make you start thinking about him ( that you are already ! ) Next time tag along a friend , dont go alone. If you have a boyfriend, go with him. If this guy has any romantic inclinations, your boyfriends presence should do the trick. Do take this guy seriously.Sometimes an innocent romantic feeling can turn into a bad obsession. I very much doubt this, if he were interested romantically he would have approached her by now. OP, just go to the police! 1
SammySammy Posted March 15, 2016 Posted March 15, 2016 This is a dangerous situation. I would make sure this guy is aware that I'm taking pictures of him. Pictures of his car, license plate etc. Don't hide it. Make sure he knows without confronting him. Then, as others have advised, let everybody know. Including the police. There is a small chance that you're just paranoid and wrong about this guy, but it is better to be safe than sorry. 2
Author LatinGurl84 Posted March 15, 2016 Author Posted March 15, 2016 Ok, so what more do you need to happen before you call the police to check him out? By the time this guy shows up at your door, it's going to be too late. You seem very calm about him knowing where you live. I'm struggling to understand why you post about it here for over a month but take no further steps. I've been followed by several men in several countries but I haven't let it continue for more than a few hours. Even for such a short time, it's damn scary. Why have you not called the police yet? I see your point here! I guess a huge part of me just keeps thinking this will just stop and go away. I keep thinking ignore and pay him no mind and stop over thinking things! This has never happened to me before so I've been pretty confused about what to do...believe me I've been struggling with the thought that he is behaving stalkerish...For one thing, I am just the kind of person to always see the good in people...always trying not to judge or assume things! I have already started a log for evidence...thanks! 1
mikeylo Posted March 15, 2016 Posted March 15, 2016 I very much doubt this, if he were interested romantically he would have approached her by now. OP, just go to the police! You could be right. OP, nevertheless, you need to be careful of this guy. Some guys don't take rejection well. Get some people involved before it gets worse. I'm not sure about police at this stage. 1
Author LatinGurl84 Posted March 15, 2016 Author Posted March 15, 2016 How old are you OP?. I'm 31...why?
preraph Posted March 15, 2016 Posted March 15, 2016 Ignoring him is exactly why he's still following you. Victims ignore red flags and don't run a person off. That's what you're doing. You're just allowing him to keep doing this. A pedophile picks children who are vulnerable and weak and don't kick up a fuss. That's what you are to this guy. You're keeping his secret for him, for God's sake! You're telling him, You can do whatever you want that's inappropriate, and I won't say a word. You are really putting yourself at risk here and need to at least try to get someone to stop him. 3
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