Miss Peach Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Agreed. I also think this is super #*%# from a guy who claims he hates people who ghost or flake out on HIM. I have found a lot of people to make hypocritical claims. Now you know. Also consider multi-dating so you don't get caught in this situation. I always date at least 3 guys at a time until in a relationship. When one falls off I add another one. That way you don't get too fixated in the early phase. I always take the plans with the guy who asks me first; not necessarily the one I want to see the most. Eventually someone will win out. Also, just go ahead an make plans if you have something else that comes up. There is no rule you need to sit there and wait for him (even if you would prefer to see him). This is another way to stop fixating on a certain guy. If he's interested and you counter with a specific date, he'll take another spot on your calendar.
Author Northwestern1011 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 I have found a lot of people to make hypocritical claims. Now you know. Also consider multi-dating so you don't get caught in this situation. I always date at least 3 guys at a time until in a relationship. When one falls off I add another one. That way you don't get too fixated in the early phase. I always take the plans with the guy who asks me first; not necessarily the one I want to see the most. Eventually someone will win out. Also, just go ahead an make plans if you have something else that comes up. There is no rule you need to sit there and wait for him (even if you would prefer to see him). This is another way to stop fixating on a certain guy. If he's interested and you counter with a specific date, he'll take another spot on your calendar. Here's the thing...I am all for multi dating. That's actually my preferred way to do it. Not multi dating setting yourself up for hurt. The problem is finding multiple men to go out with on the same time line. This is a very small town, a few hours from the nearest large city, and very much a college town. You're lucky to find one semi-suitable person here, post college, to even meet up with. It's a great place to live if you are established in the middle of your career, are in your 40s, or raising a family. Not so great for a post grad or grad student in their mid twenties to mid thirties..
jen1447 Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Here's the thing...I am all for multi dating. That's actually my preferred way to do it. Not multi dating setting yourself up for hurt. The problem is finding multiple men to go out with on the same time line. This is a very small town, a few hours from the nearest large city, and very much a college town. You're lucky to find one semi-suitable person here, post college, to even meet up with. It's a great place to live if you are established in the middle of your career, are in your 40s, or raising a family. Not so great for a post grad or grad student in their mid twenties to mid thirties.. Really? I always feasted in college towns in my early to mid 20s.
Author Northwestern1011 Posted February 16, 2016 Author Posted February 16, 2016 Really? I always feasted in college towns in my early to mid 20s. Not when you work for the university.
Miss Peach Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Here's the thing...I am all for multi dating. That's actually my preferred way to do it. Not multi dating setting yourself up for hurt. The problem is finding multiple men to go out with on the same time line. This is a very small town, a few hours from the nearest large city, and very much a college town. You're lucky to find one semi-suitable person here, post college, to even meet up with. It's a great place to live if you are established in the middle of your career, are in your 40s, or raising a family. Not so great for a post grad or grad student in their mid twenties to mid thirties.. It doesn't mean you have to date per se but do things for yourself. Go out with friends, join some meetups, go on OLD, etc. Don't just focus on men. Meet all sorts of people. See who you might want to bring into your life - men and women. It's a little slower of a process than OLD but I tend to meet better quality guys through meetup groups. Being on a campus, you could probably also add clubs, sports, etc. into this.
jen1447 Posted February 16, 2016 Posted February 16, 2016 Not when you work for the university. Yeah ok that makes sense.
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