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Things have been rocky with girl I am seeing; should I try to celebrate Valentines?

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So, I was seeing a girl; things went well for a month, then there was a period where things got rocky for us, due to both of us traveling (not with each other...we had pre-planned trips before we met) and then she was very ill for a few weeks.

 

At the end of this tough time, she decided she is not ready for a relationship, but wants to still date me, taking things step by step.

 

I am not chasing her, but letting her contact me and initiate things (last week, she called me for a booty call...ok, no problem there for me). I am totally letting her come to me at this time. She does initiate texting with me a lot, so its not like she is brushing me off.

 

Should I ask her to do something Sunday at all? Or just stick with my strategy of letting her talk to me?

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You should ask her out for Valentine's. It might cheer her up a little. You don't have to make it a huge all-out romantic date though. But buy her dinner or something like that. Then try to keep it light.

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Yes, I think you are right.

 

I was thinking I would ask her if she wants to go to dinner on Sunday, then make a joke about "will you be my valentine", haha.

 

How does that sound? It takes the seriousness out of the issue. I was also thinking about getting her a corny Valentines day card that I give to her when I pick her up, lol.

 

Does this sound appropriate for our current scenario?

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Your idea sounds cute enough. Some lighthearted acknowledgement but nothing too mushy should be the right tone.

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Thanks for the feedback; I used this approach last night via text message, and she was very receptive to it.

 

She said that she is actually meeting her chick friend for drinks at an "Anti Valentines Day Party" sunday night, but that we could meet later that night. She also proposed meeting later tonight.

 

So, it seems like my no-pressure, laid-back approach is working well at this time.

 

I am being very zen about it all, and making preparations to start dating others (actually, already starting to), in case things fade with her.

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