Hrtbroken316 Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 Hi Yall! So I was posting quite often after a break up I had a few months ago. It was the worst breakup I've ever had due to the nature of the breakup (she ghosted on me, completely became unavailable, etc..) Anyway! Im back into the dating scene. I met a very cute girl through a mutual friend. We have known each other for quite some time, but barely really talked. I could tell there was some interest from the beginning, and by the end of the night we were laughing and all seemed well. Got her number, texted her a couple days later, and we've been texting ever since. We have been texting back and forth for a couple days now. Asked each other different/fun questions trying to get to know each other. Conversation seemed good to me and I could tell she was interested based on long/quick replies. As of last night, she stopped responding. We were talking about traveling/places we've been and I asked her if she had ever been to Vegas. That was the last of it. I havn't heard back since and she has not bothered to respond to me. I am puzzled. Although it was just last night, I have a hard time understanding the lack of response. I know people are busy, she has a job, she probably just forgot...but something tells me she has lost a bit of interest. Maybe its my own insecurity, but its almost impossible for me to be Mr. Suave, especially when I begin to like a girl (which im beginning to with this girl) I guess the question is, what do I do? Do I just sit on it for a couple days and surprise call her? Do I wait for her response, then call her? Do I try again through text? My friends give me ****ty advice and tell me to "move on" or figure out something else to do. But i think thats nonsense. A part of me believes there should be some strategy towards the initial dating phase and I am determined to at least make this one work (at least initially). Thanks for your help in advance
GR4 Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 I'd give it a few days and if you don't hear back from her send her another text as if nothing happened. Don't mention the fact that she didn't reply just keep the conversation going or start a new one. Better still ask her out on a date. You shouldn't texting back and forth anyway, use the phone to make a date and then talk to her in person.
Peachland Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 I would ask her on a date. Sometimes girls get tired of the back and forth texting that leads no where.
Redhead14 Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 Hi Yall! So I was posting quite often after a break up I had a few months ago. It was the worst breakup I've ever had due to the nature of the breakup (she ghosted on me, completely became unavailable, etc..) Anyway! Im back into the dating scene. I met a very cute girl through a mutual friend. We have known each other for quite some time, but barely really talked. I could tell there was some interest from the beginning, and by the end of the night we were laughing and all seemed well. Got her number, texted her a couple days later, and we've been texting ever since. We have been texting back and forth for a couple days now. Asked each other different/fun questions trying to get to know each other. Conversation seemed good to me and I could tell she was interested based on long/quick replies. As of last night, she stopped responding. We were talking about traveling/places we've been and I asked her if she had ever been to Vegas. That was the last of it. I havn't heard back since and she has not bothered to respond to me. I am puzzled. Although it was just last night, I have a hard time understanding the lack of response. I know people are busy, she has a job, she probably just forgot...but something tells me she has lost a bit of interest. Maybe its my own insecurity, but its almost impossible for me to be Mr. Suave, especially when I begin to like a girl (which im beginning to with this girl) I guess the question is, what do I do? Do I just sit on it for a couple days and surprise call her? Do I wait for her response, then call her? Do I try again through text? My friends give me ****ty advice and tell me to "move on" or figure out something else to do. But i think thats nonsense. A part of me believes there should be some strategy towards the initial dating phase and I am determined to at least make this one work (at least initially). Thanks for your help in advance Listen, like it or not, women kinda expect the man to do more than just text back forth. If they like him, they are waiting for him to actually ask her for a date. We can't be sure what's going on with her and a day isn't a big deal really, especially since you haven't been on a date with her yet. If you're thinking you want to get to know her a little better before asking for the date, texting ain't really gonna do that much. Texting as a way to develop a dating scenario or a relationship sucks. It's impersonal, lacks the intonation/texture and quality of a real phone call. Don't get into the habit of using texts for having conversations that deserve a more personal touch. Just give her a call and ask her for a date. You don't know why she stopped texting for sure. So go with what you do know . . . the conversations were good and she seemed interested. Either she says yes, or she says no not that day, how about X day, or she just says No, thank you . . . Just take the leap. Time's a wastin'.
Author Hrtbroken316 Posted February 11, 2016 Author Posted February 11, 2016 Thanks for the reply. I actually asked her to come snowboarding with my friends and I this Saturday. When I asked her, she sent a love emoji and said "you snowboard? :)" , but said she couldn't because she has an exam (which i know is true). Do i just wait a couple days and call her and ask her out over the phone?
Peachland Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 Hey OP, I wouldn't ask her out on a 1st date with friends. That's not a real date. I would take it as you aren't that interested. 1
basil67 Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 Thanks for the reply. I actually asked her to come snowboarding with my friends and I this Saturday. When I asked her, she sent a love emoji and said "you snowboard? :)" , but said she couldn't because she has an exam (which i know is true). Do i just wait a couple days and call her and ask her out over the phone? After she said she couldn't go snowboarding, you should have booked her in for a dinner instead.
Redhead14 Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 Thanks for the reply. I actually asked her to come snowboarding with my friends and I this Saturday. When I asked her, she sent a love emoji and said "you snowboard? :)" , but said she couldn't because she has an exam (which i know is true). Do i just wait a couple days and call her and ask her out over the phone? Generally, a saavy woman who likes a guy and he asks her for a date on day she's not available, she will offer an alternate day. Since we don't know what kind of "dater" she is, I think you should give her a call on Sunday after the exam and say something like, "I hope your exam went well. Since you couldn't come out with us yesterday, how about dinner, just you and I on X day?" If she says, yes, and the date goes well, have a plan for the next date and ask her at the end of this date. You can still take her snowboarding for the second date. I also don't recommend "group" dates for a first date. You want one on one. Meeting others may make her uncomfortable and it takes away from "your" time. Save the group thing for a little later in the dating scenario.
Author Hrtbroken316 Posted February 11, 2016 Author Posted February 11, 2016 Thanks for the replies. She still hasn't responded to my last text. Been 2 days now. I guess since the convo was going so well, I'm surprised she hasn't taken the initiative to at least response. Do you recommend I continue to wait or just call her when the timing is right?
Redhead14 Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 Thanks for the replies. She still hasn't responded to my last text. Been 2 days now. I guess since the convo was going so well, I'm surprised she hasn't taken the initiative to at least response. Do you recommend I continue to wait or just call her when the timing is right? Just call her and get out of the "mystery zone".
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