Relationship

[dolly88]

Hi,

I've been with my boyfriend over a year now, I absolutely adore him and love him to bits. Our friends and family all say we are meant to be together, I believe this to and so does he. he can be the most loving, generous and loyal boyfriend when we are good (which is the majority of the time). When we are bad, things are awful, we argue over things which I feel aren't that big of a deal, for instance recently he asked if he could go to Ibiza with his friends, I told him he didn't need to ask permission and that I won't say yes or no as I don't want to be a dictator, therefore I didn't mind. He did not like this reaction and we argued, he will argue until he gets his own way and will say whatever he wants to get there, during this argument he told me I have nothing and other nasty things, he will never apologise for these things even though I tell him they hurt me, his rationale is he believed them at the time so will therefore not apologise.

These arguments are getting me down so much, I can't handle them, they don't outweigh the good, far from it.

I just need advice on how to handle him and the situation. I have suggested councilling for him which he has refused, has anybody got any kind advice they can share.

I love him and don't want to be without him.

Thank you

[big dog]

you may think you love him now but these things are just the tip of the iceberg, It will get much worse...... better suck up the hurt and get out...now !

[bachdude]

Healthy conflict resolution is, to me, one of the most important aspects of a relationship. All relationships will have issues but they don't need to turn into drama. It's all in how you communicate to each other. Conflict resolution, instead of turning into something damaging to the relationship, can actually make the relationship stronger.