Mrin Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 You guys probably don't know my story but about 2 years ago I was in a short but very intense relationship with a woman. We had really strong physical chemistry and she was a little bit of a wild child. She was also just freshly divorced (or getting a divorce it turns out). The short of it was that about three months into it I broke it off with her but remained friends. Every time we got together afterwards it was like combustion. So we did the "friends" thing for another 3 months. I found myself really wanting her back but I also knew that it would never work out and would probably end poorly. I was dating a bunch of other women casually and I finally noticed that I was sabotaging anything with them because well, they weren't her. Total catch 22 situation. Finally, after a couple of sleepless nights I decided she had to leave my life and so I said goodbye to her - the uber unfriending. I won't lie to you - it sucked at first. But as the weeks progressed things got better and within about a month I had met my soulmate. We're now happily in love with each other and things couldn't be better. But that's not why I'm writing this story. Two weeks ago my ex emailed me with a hello. It turns out we share a common friend and when I had spoken to him last I told him to tell her hello from me. My ex is also happily ensconced in a very loving and full relationship. We swapped several emails and shared some good laughs. But there was no flame there. No awkwardness. Just a reunion of ships that had crossed paths once or twice before. I write this because many on this board are dealing with the aftermath of a break up. It does get better. And your feelings can change and morph into something far more healthy. They say that time heals all wounds and I think to a large part that's correct. What also heals wounds is distance. Not in terms of geography but in terms of your life. Don't stay static. Don't be caught like an insect in amber. Move on. Move along. Evolve. Involve. And when that time comes for you to cross paths with an ex-lover, you will be able to appreciate it for what it was and not make up some sort of story about coulda/woulda/shoulda. Take care of yourselves people. Mrin 7
Toodaloo Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Thank God. I was worried for a moment then! Good on you Mrin for doing so well. I remember how devastated you were. Very glad that you are much happier now! Long may it last!
Author Mrin Posted February 10, 2016 Author Posted February 10, 2016 Thank God. I was worried for a moment then! Good on you Mrin for doing so well. I remember how devastated you were. Very glad that you are much happier now! Long may it last! Thanks! I figured sooner or later we'd cross paths. I wasn't too worried about it but really jazzed how it turned out.
erklat Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 You gained absolutely nothing. You didn't loose much but I wouldn't send any hellos through mutual friends. And you were the dumper unlike most of the stories here.
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