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How long after a break up to contact the ex again?


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corrections, it read 3 steps forward and 5 steps back

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and that's why they call me the mightycpa ;)

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We all mess up sometimes, it seemed to me that she wasnt that into you anymore to so easily cut you off. I am glad you see that now. At least you arent punishing yourself for that mistake. Good luck, you will find someone better:)

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So she tweeted today three times, and she NEVER tweets. She tweeted these three things.

 

1. Happy 4 u

2. Heads up are nice

3. 5 steps forward and 3 steps back

 

Which makes me believe she just got punched in the face by karma and a different dude. It seems to me also she was talking to this dude while she was saying stuff to me "I love the looks of our future together, youre perfect, my baby, blah blah blah." Rather she did cut me off because of me being an ass, or not. She still seems like she was with a different dude.

 

Which would also explain why she cut it off with me so easily the next day. THANKS SO MUCH. I clearly did dodge a bullet with this one. Such a shady person. Now I have gone no contact since, and we will see how long it takes her to reach out to me realizing "oh i f'd up." And I just curve her back. lmao

 

Thanks everyone

 

I'd stop monitoring her on social media if I were you. Nothing good will come from it.

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So a girl and I had been seeing each other for over a month. She was attached hard and showed crazy interest in me. Towards the end of our relationship, she was still attached hard but I come to the conclusion that I was starting to become clingy rather than that independent different man she initially grew attracted to. So the day she cut if off with me, she got upset because of a text I sent her. (the text read if you are going to be short with me, I am just not going to text you)

 

So she got mad and stopped responding to me. My weakness was evident when over the next 3-4 days I blew up her phone telling her how much I liked her and basically beginning for forgiveness (yes there goes my man card). It has been like two weeks of no contact.

 

Basically what I am asking here is, are my chances gone since I showed that pathetic side of me. I have learned from this experience to never do something like that. I still feel for the girl, and I do not blame her for splitting after I did this. I would have done the same.

 

Should I continue no contact (while meeting new people) and maybe in a couple weeks/months reach out to her? Or do you think her level of attraction is completely gone?

 

(If I waited, she still had some of my clothes and I was thinking about reaching out to her to get them and seeing how she has been and ask her out for lunch/dinner)

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If it ended once after only a month, it is over. There shouldn't be a fight in that short a period anyhow.

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Your chances of ever being in a relationship with her are *very* close to zero.

 

She's decided to cut all contact with you.

 

What do you think that means?

 

What does it say?

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are my chances gone since I showed that pathetic side of me.

Well, your chances are definitely shot.

 

Whether it's because you showed a pathetic side, or because you sent her a nasty text message, is debatable.

 

But it is over. Get your stuff back and don't contact her again.

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So a girl and I had been seeing each other for over a month. She was attached hard and showed crazy interest in me. Towards the end of our relationship, she was still attached hard but I come to the conclusion that I was starting to become clingy rather than that independent different man she initially grew attracted to. So the day she cut if off with me, she got upset because of a text I sent her. (the text read if you are going to be short with me, I am just not going to text you)

 

So she got mad and stopped responding to me. My weakness was evident when over the next 3-4 days I blew up her phone telling her how much I liked her and basically beginning for forgiveness (yes there goes my man card). It has been like two weeks of no contact.

 

Basically what I am asking here is, are my chances gone since I showed that pathetic side of me. I have learned from this experience to never do something like that. I still feel for the girl, and I do not blame her for splitting after I did this. I would have done the same.

 

Should I continue no contact (while meeting new people) and maybe in a couple weeks/months reach out to her? Or do you think her level of attraction is completely gone?

 

(If I waited, she still had some of my clothes and I was thinking about reaching out to her to get them and seeing how she has been and ask her out for lunch/dinner)

 

If I were you, I'd give up on her - and also on getting your clothes back. If she hasn't returned them to you by now, she probably has no intention of doing so, if she even still has them.

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Answer is the same as it was on the other threads you started on the topic -- your dishes are done dude. Reasking the same questions over and over again isn't going to net a different answer. She saw something early on that was a huge red flag for her and pulled the eject lever. When that happens, you're dead to rights. And please don't use your clothes as a ploy to try to worm another date out of her -- that'll just make it worse. Get your clothes (if you actually want them) and nothing else.

 

You can use this experience as a learning tool moving forward. We all make mistakes. However, this particular situation is done.

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