lehcar Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 I've been seeing someone who I really like for a few weeks. We talk everyday and we've been out about 8 times. He asked me to come celebrate Valentine's Day with him and his friends, but I feel like this early in dating, that it's a bit soon to be meeting his friends & celebrating a holiday meant for people in relationships. I like him a lot and I can definitely see this becoming a serious relationship, but I'm afraid of moving too fast because I feel like when things move too fast they can burn out too quickly. Thoughts?
Robratory Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 He asked me to come celebrate Valentine's Day with him and his friends, but I feel like this early in dating, that it's a bit soon to be meeting his friends & celebrating a holiday meant for people in relationships. Celebrate Valentine's Day with him and his friends? Is he gunning for the Most Romantic Man 2016 award? I don't know if it's too soon to meet some of his friends, but I would be put off by his idea.
basil67 Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 It's not a holiday just for people in relationships. It's also for people to send a card or something to someone they'd like to be in a relationship with. Two dozen roses and jewellery would be too much, too fast. But celebrating Valentines with a group of friends is pretty much just an excuse for a party. Doesn't sound at all romantic or OTT!
d0nnivain Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 I don't care if you met the person on February 13th at 11:59 p.m. It's not too soon to do something lighthearted like give a small chocolate or a box of those kids' candy hearts that say Be My Valentine. Both probably cost less then the cup of coffee you'd let someone buy you on the 1st OLD meet. It's certainly not too early for a heart shaped text or e-mail or even just the words, Happy Valentine's Day. It's a hallmark holiday not a declaration of undying love.
GunslingerRoland Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 When you say him and his friends, do you mean like a group date? If not it sounds very lame. Also, 8 dates sounds like a fairly long time to me. It should be the point where you'd know if you want to keep dating someone or not. If I went on 8 dates with someone, and they weren't ready to use the term relationship, I'd be pretty confused. 1
Mrin Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 It is never too soon to celebrate valentines day. Period.
PogoStick Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 Mrin, I disagree. You shouldn't celebrate Valentine's day before February 14th. 3
yxalitis Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 I've been seeing someone who I really like for a few weeks. We talk everyday and we've been out about 8 times. He asked me to come celebrate Valentine's Day with him and his friends, but I feel like this early in dating, that it's a bit soon to be meeting his friends & celebrating a holiday meant for people in relationships. I like him a lot and I can definitely see this becoming a serious relationship, but I'm afraid of moving too fast because I feel like when things move too fast they can burn out too quickly. Thoughts? This actually doesn't sound like a traditional valentine's day celebration. Sounds like an excuse to have a get together, the meaning of the day is lost as soon as you said "With him and his friends" And how are you moving too fast when HE ASKED YOU? You're dating...right? Attending a Valentine's day 'thing' isn't saying: "I'm with you forever my endless love!" It says: "yeah, we're dating" Which you are... So where's the problem...?
yxalitis Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 But in a general sense... Anyone who gives ANY credit to a partner because "The did something special for me on Valentine's day" needs to reexamine the nature of romance, generosity, and thoughtfulness. If I give my girlfriend a gift, it's because I thought of her, or saw something I thought she'd like. If I take her out for dinner, it's because I want to share that with her. If I give her flowers it's because I was thinking of her. If do ANY of these things because "It's Valentine's day" I am simply following the herd mentality, a day created to sell flowers, cards, and chocolates. There is NOTHING "special" about a day decreed by commercial interests to be a day you do something nice for your partner... It's a meaningless, hollow, shallow event. If you need to be told WHEN to think about your partner....you aren't!
Gaeta Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 celebrating a holiday meant for people in relationships. nah.....Why do kids give hearts to their parents on Valentine's Day? Why kids draw hearts and give them to their friends? At my office we give everybody heart shaped chocolate. You're putting way too much importance in this. It's not significant at all. It's not like your new boyfriend taking you home for Xmas dinner.
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