266696687 Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Has anyone got the no contact rules handy for Jared?
Chi townD Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Dude, just stop. Stop contacting her. Your silence speaks volumes. You're giving her a reason to forgive herself. She can use that text to do that. She can say to herself, "Wow, if he's going to be an ass about this, then I'm glad I got rid of his ass." See, if you didn't respond, she would have no idea where your head is at. She doesn't know if you hate her, she doesn't know if your happy or sad or indifferent. SHE HAS NOTHING!! Then, she would have no choice but to hold onto her guilt. And we want them to do that. Not to punish them, but to have them learn from this. That you can't treat people the way she treated you and expect folks to be okay with it. Look dude, she's full of sh*t, you know it and I know it. I would not be shocked in the least if you find out in a month that she's now dating this douche rocket. It's time to move on. Time to heal from this. You're 18 and should be moving on with your life anyway. You should be going to University or traveling or learning a trade to get yourself moving. Time to start looking forward to your future. 1
VintageWine Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Just please block her from all social media if you have her on social media, delete her contact and block her. Go no contact. No contact isn't for you to get back her, it's for yourself to work on yourself. It's clear as day that your confidence, self esteem isn't there. It isn't where it's supposed to be, you seriously need to just do you. I know it sounds hard, it isn't easy when you love someone, however, like I said before, this girl isn't all that. You're 17 years old, realize that you're so young, you're gonna be my age before you know it and even 20 is young. You have your whole life ahead of you, believe me when I say this. Relationships are great to have really great to have, however, what's very important is having a good relationship with yourself first. Do you, have fun in high school, if you go to college, join clubs, put yourself out there and figure out what you want out of life. Step outside of your comfort zone, you're going to be okay.
VintageWine Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/81399-no-contact-q-you-ls-newbies 1
mightycpa Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Stop calling it a mistake, and you'll be better off seeing what it really was. Re-read your text, and everywhere you see the word "mistake" use "intentional betrayal" instead. 3
Chi townD Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 I agree with CPA. If you still feel like "she made a mistake" then fine. But, that's a mistake she'll have to live with because you don't have to. 1
VintageWine Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 Stop calling it a mistake, and you'll be better off seeing what it really was. Re-read your text, and everywhere you see the word "mistake" use "intentional betrayal" instead. Exactly, this so much. You're giving this girl so much free rein when you shouldn't. Read the other replies, it wasn't a mistake, she made the choice. No one hold a gun to her head, she made that decision to do that, please realize this. 1
Satu Posted February 10, 2016 Posted February 10, 2016 There was no 'mistake.' She wanted to have sex with the guy, and she did. She made a choice.
hunk Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 This has to be a troll ... come on ... That message you sent is utterly pathetic. Know what this girl is doing/thinking about right now, after you sent that? Her ex boyfriend's dick. She probably messaged him laughing about your text. You are scum to her, you're literally repulsive to her. You need to drop off the face of the planet and never contact her again, respond to anything she sends, or acknowledge her existence. You are literally nothing in her eyes, you are a sub-man to her. You need to understand you will never be with this girl and she is fundamentally unattracted to you and is keeping you around as an emotional play-thing she can mess with for her own amusement. You are being a complete idiot, wake the **** up and go do something. Work on yourself and enjoy your life, stop letting people treat you like dirt.
The Poster Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 This has to be a troll ... come on ... That message you sent is utterly pathetic. Know what this girl is doing/thinking about right now, after you sent that? Her ex boyfriend's dick. She probably messaged him laughing about your text. You are scum to her, you're literally repulsive to her. You need to drop off the face of the planet and never contact her again, respond to anything she sends, or acknowledge her existence. You are literally nothing in her eyes, you are a sub-man to her. You need to understand you will never be with this girl and she is fundamentally unattracted to you and is keeping you around as an emotional play-thing she can mess with for her own amusement. You are being a complete idiot, wake the **** up and go do something. Work on yourself and enjoy your life, stop letting people treat you like dirt. He's 18 man. Give him a break. No one at that age knows any better. He'll learn from this and it will only benefit him in the future. 1
VintageWine Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Is it bad that I'm wondering about this kid? I get that he's 18 and all, I was once his age (literally, I'm 20). I get that he's young and won't be able to make this choice all so well, however, his situation just sucks and I'm hoping things got better for him, I'm hoping that he did leave her, but I doubt it, but who knows. Hope this guy is doing well. 1
katiegrl Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 This is what she said after i sent her that whole thing......."That doesn't make anything worse. And me asking for space isn't going to distance us... You think I can just forget about us? And all the memories we made and all the feelings I have for you? That's not something that I can get over that easily so please don't be scared. I still love you" I am so sorry Jared, but it sounds like she feels sorry for you, and doesn't want to hurt you. For sure she has definitely lost respect for you. A girl who truly loves you does not ask for or need SPACE Jared, trust me on that one.
EatYourVeggies Posted February 26, 2016 Posted February 26, 2016 Is it bad that I'm wondering about this kid? I get that he's 18 and all, I was once his age (literally, I'm 20). I get that he's young and won't be able to make this choice all so well, however, his situation just sucks and I'm hoping things got better for him, I'm hoping that he did leave her, but I doubt it, but who knows. Hope this guy is doing well. "Learning the Hard Way" I have noticed in my own life and those of others that when we select this route even after reading the "fine print" (in this case, the advice / warnings we gave the OP) when it's all over said and done with... We all claim we were never told or warned that the HARD in "hard way" is unavoidable or how painful it was going to be.
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