LostHisWay Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 So I’ve been trying to be introspective these past couple years, but not getting the desired results I wanted. Lately I’ve turned to YouTube videos for dating advice, and though that’s helped a bit with regaining confidence, I’m not where I want to be. As such, I'm now turning to forums for real-life advice from those with real-life experience. I’ll quickly say that when I was younger, I was very successful with women. I had 2 serious gfs that spanned (on and off) about a decade, but lots of other quick flings or side hookups. However, I moved out of a state for a job a few years ago. Me and my second girlfriend tried long distance, but it eventually didn’t work out. I’ve been single now, without her, for two years, and it’s been a struggle. I can’t find my old ways, and don't know why. I’m a decent to good-looking guy who is in pretty decent shape. Yet I haven’t had much luck as of late with girls I’m really interested in. Some flings and pick-ups, but not with ones I really am into and not as frequently as it used to be. Maybe it’s bc I’m older and trying to be “nicer” than my playboy days, but I’m struggling and need any/all advice.
Author LostHisWay Posted February 9, 2016 Author Posted February 9, 2016 Just a quick follow-up. I have been reluctant to date since the last relationship due to needing to recover emotionally. She quickly moved on and dated someone else, but when I have tried, I’ve failed. Not even gotten out of the friend zone on the few instances I've tried, which is something I’m not used to and frustrating. I’ve been interested more so than the usual in two girls in the past year, and tried to get to know them. I’m a friendly and conversational person, not socially-awkward or anything, so the relationships are there. I just can’t get past the friend part. One of these girls was already dating someone else when I came into the picture and she wound up getting serious with him but is still a friend of mine. The other, who I recently took out, and I are cool. But it also hasn’t gotten anywhere romantic. I know I need to not let my ego get the best of me, but it’s frustratingly becoming more difficult to do with all the bad luck I’ve experienced as of late. I want to find my way again. All your help/words will be greatly appreciated.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 9, 2016 Posted February 9, 2016 I think your recent lack of success could have something to do with the two girls in those particular situations. The one who was already dating someone probably never really was a candidate to begin with, for the simple fact that she wasn't really available. The second one you took out - can you give us some insight? ie. how did you meet her, how long did you know her before the date, what did you do on said date? Why do you think it fizzled out? Also, what are your typical social activities? That might give us an idea of where and how you're meeting women.
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