superfabulous Posted June 9, 2005 Posted June 9, 2005 ok give to me - did i just lose the love of my life with some bad joke cracking...... i am worried....i was dating a guy not so long ago. He said he wanted to do some stand up comedy, and he could deliver, he just needed the content..so dumb me writes 3 pages of "topical jokes" and who best the joke be on than onself- i researched it...I talked bout dreams, girlfirend crap used me in it...and i talked bout his looks- but now i think he dumped me after reading it!LOL he wanted to read it he asked me and i just took what he said, yikes, hes not that much of a baby at38 - i think i blew it! So i have a make up letter,but should i mention the jokes i left at his house with my handwriting, thing is...the jokes may have not been so funny he had to deliver them..basically its comeing back to me that i may have deeply insulted his existance on earth- oh man - he does have a crappy job he pokes fun at and ididn mention his lost dreams... but not all of them, he couldnt be a piliot cuz he wears glasses, he may have wanted to be an actor but never persued it and he loves Tennis but its not a money maker for him... ok our relations were based on the chemistry and fun and common intersts.... we had soo much fun! HELP, My and idiot for leaving the jokes with him....to read on his own - to make matters worse!!!!!!!! Ever since that time....no call from him and no calls returned. Is this a good reason to leave me in the cold... the man is 38 yrs old!
crazy_grl Posted June 10, 2005 Posted June 10, 2005 You need to talk to him and explain that you were trying to help. He was probably expecting cute little jokes, and instead you used things that he probably told you in confidence and made fun of them. He might think that this is how you've seen him all along: as some loser to make fun of and the whole time he's been spilling his guts to you, you've been laughing at him losing his hopes and dreams and being a loser in a s***ty job. You need to make him understand that you don't see him that way. You were just trying to help him, and being a thorough person, you researched how to write the best stand-up jokes. You found out that it's to make them about yourself. So, you tried to write them from his perspective, and used things that you've heard him complain about. It was definately not a good move on your part. People can make fun of themselves, their life, house, car, bf/gf, race, mother, etc all they want. But when someone else does it, they naturally get defensive. You're not him, and you shouldn't be making those kinds of jokes about him even though they were well-intentioned.
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