LookAtThisPOst Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 I have a male friend of mine, once he talks ill of certain people in office, it can be a deal breaker for some. He doesn't care much for the current president and when he voices his opinion on that and his date voted for that person...say good-bye to future dates. ME for instance, I could rarely talk politics with a woman I'm dating. They even say some of the things some people prefer NOT to talk about should be religion and politics. I saw a dating profile of a woman that said she can't stand socialists and liberals and up to this point with the elections getting so close who could even STAND to vote for Bernie or Hillary. Though the rest of her profile showed a lot of promise, I contacted her anyway, becauase I don't have passionate political beliefs like some people. I'm more middle of the road leaning towards conservative. Now I heard Bernie out, but not lately...as he's got some pretty good viewpoints on medical care and for college tuition. BUT...I've reached a point in my life where politicians will say ANYTHING to get into office. That you pretty much try to vote for the lesser of the evils. You can't really believe follow through with their actions considering the past presidencies. Anyhow, I don't want to get into too much a political discussion but...should your political beliefs really be a major deal breaker. If you were on a date and they asked you, "Who did you vote for?" and you tell them and they say, "Wrong answer, bye!", could you honestly say it's more about their rigid personality trait than political affiliation? I could really give a rats behind about who voted for whom, but apparently it's a big deal in the dating world...for SOME people...to know this about you. Yes? I have a male friend that didn't want to date a woman who didn't follow politics much. Too in the "middle of the road" for him. I was like "Dude, seriously, I now know why you've been single for so long." Thoughts?
elaine567 Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 To anyone who is interested in politics, or who considers themselves politically aware or even active, then politics matters a great deal. They WILL want to discuss politics, as it is important to them and is a part of their life that they will want to share with a partner. Some may be fine with a partner who supports an opposing party or who "doesn't get" politics, whilst others want a partner with similar political views and interests.
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Everybody has different deal breakers. Your friends make theirs clear. More power to them for being up front about their views. You don't have to agree with them. You can chose not to discuss politics. As long as you are true to yourself, it's all good.
thecrucible Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 I don't find politics to be a great deal breaker unless it's an extreme difference. I find people commit to a party due to certain family traditions so you'll find you have more in common with them than it seems at first. I have certain political beliefs that won't change with me though so I'd hope we'd both be on the same page with that - I'm pro-Union and a centrist on the UK political spectrum. If someone is going to go the point of putting it in their profile then they must be particularly ardent. I prefer to have a good political debate when it comes up naturally in conversation. I wouldn't really want to date someone who took their interest in politics to the point of being an activist - any hint of that in a profile from whatever side of the spectrum is likely to put me off messaging someone.
testmeasure Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 All of what you say is true. And all of what you say is true. It boils down to that. To those who care about politics, they care. If you don't, you don't. What they care about doesn't matter to you. They can't understand your indifference. You're a callous insensitive bump. (not really but that's how they see it) Reverse every thing you said and imagine a politically inclined female saying the opposite about you. Personally I'm so far outside contemporary politics I can't identify with either side or any middle ground. That makes the number of people who might agree with me very limited. I've been tempted twice in my past to lower my standards and accept people who don't see my point of view. Both relationships lasted only weeks. Meanwhile I've spent 70% of my adult life in three 5+ year long term relationships with people who shared my moral and political views. I think there is something to be said for a common frame of reference. .
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