Gunther Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Back story: I met this really nice girl online recently and we've talked mostly everyday since. We'd say goodnight to each other and we talked alot about our days and our own plans for the future. She even told me she would like to visit me subtley and we share a lot in common.Then all of a sudden one night during one of our conversations out of nowhere she just begun not receiveing any of my messages as they wouldn't go through. I then saw that she had changed her status online to seeing someone. And then a comment saying Not interested and never will be. I'm so confused if this seeing someone is actually me or not, or if that was meant for me to read and then understand that that's why my messages aren't getting through anymore? I'm really not sure because I never tried anything romantically, but acted only as a good friend. Do you think she is trying to tell me she isn't interested in that or is it possible still she is just not receiveing my messages for whichever reason and that seeing someone could be me? It's a mystery to me and I really need to know what seems more likely, I really thought we were good friends 1
ExpatInItaly Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 I don't think there's a mystery here: She's dating another guy. I don't understand how "seeing someone" could be interpreted as you if you've never actually met her. Seeing each other would involve going on dates, and...you know...seeing her in person. I take it you haven't done so (correct me if I'm wrong) therefore she's not referring to you. This also lines up with her sudden silence. She doesn't have the cojones to tell you she's involved with someone else so she chose the less mature option and cut you off. Sorry, but I would not try to contact her anymore. 1
Toodaloo Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Gunther. You didn't take the hint, she started seeing someone else, because of that she has cut you off. Time to move on. Leave her alone. 1
TheArtist Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Were you talking to her as a friend or as a potential lover? It's clear that this girl wanted more but there must have been either a lack of flirting, or lack of willingness, to move things forward on your side. Sorry, but I think she's done.
jen1447 Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Do you have any way of asking her what the hell's going on? I wouldn't tolerate the brush off like that, no matter who it was.
preraph Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 She isn't going to flirt with you while dating someone else. I guess she thought changing her status was enough. Don't try to get ahold of her. You may hear from her again when she's single, but meanwhile, stop focusing on her because she may have found the one.
GR4 Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 were you interested in her romantically? If you were why were you acting like a friend? If you want to be her friend then her seeing someone else shouldn't be an issue. I agree, her just brushing you off like that isn't cool and I'd be tempted to call her out on it some other way.
Larryville Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 For guys one of the most important things to keep in mind is if you start chatting with someone no matter how many “nice” email exchanges you might have ALWAYS assume she is having a number of subsequent conversations with other potential suitors and when she decides one dude is “the one” to pursue she will just disappear. The conversations are a means of analysis and you could have said one tiny innocuous comment that made their decision for her. Also keep in mind a great number of women who use these sites as pure entertainment, conversations are a means of relieving boredom, so unless a hard meet date has been suggested (by her) don’t read too much into the conversations, no matter how friendly or seemingly enthusiastic. I never tried anything romantically, but acted only as a good friend. No… Can’t be a friend when you don’t know her…
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