Flamez Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 (edited) Well long story short, she broke contact asking if i still had her stuff and if she can have it back, and hoped i was doing 'well'. I told her yes i still have her stuff and thats its not a problem that i still have her things and i will give her things back. I ignored the hope you are doing 'well' she insisted again, i hope you're doing good to keep the conversation going. I basically said im better etc. We lasted 1 month shy of 6 years, met at 17 ( highschool ) Her reasons for breaking up were very contradicting reasons i feel she has/had GIGS. The normal im not in love with you but i love you, i may be back but cant make any promises etc. She texted me with a apology after she broke NC, and shes the one that insisted NC. I just upheld it. ( i had forms i could still contact her if i wanted ) Whats really interesting i found out how bad her lifes going downhill. She got a job being a bartender, shes now driving home/places drunk, has 2 tickets over 20mph, one more ticket until she loses her license. She said she doesnt remember the last time shes been sober since we broke up, ( this girl was never was like this, did a complete 180 ) Shes constantly doing dabs, and drinking 24/7, extacy, cocaine. Completely going off the rails. Party phase on max ETC. She also barely eats went from a size 7 pants with me to a size 0. Shes in horrible health status. I feel so bad for her but i cant. She said she was losing herself in our relationship, and now she loves herself... Like no thats not loving yourself.. and you are losing yourself now ( I didnt say this to her but shes so GONE ) Whats also interesting, she says she doesn't know if either of us are ready to be friends ( SHE INSISTED THIS ) I even told her when we broke up and she insisted on being friends, NO! She said she cant look at my instagram anymore since i got a makeover and look different, working out getting big etc. I DIDNT EVEN KNOW SHE WAS LOOKING AT MY STUFF! ( tell-tale signs shes still hurt from the breakup ) but shes open to try to be friends she 'supposes' I told her i don't really wanna be friends. She goes well.. maybe not friends... but not strangers either. We had a good conversation it was nice to hear from her, set me back for MAYBE a workout that night, but im being the bigger person and driving her stuff over her parents house and continuing NC. This really does seem like GIGS. I may be wrong, and i'm not saying that to justify her coming back. In all honesty i dont even want her right now the way she is. Shes been numbing herself ever since our breakup. I changed and been sober the whole time aside new years eve. ( i smoked marijuana with her on a daily basis ) Shes in phase 3 if it is, and now shes insisting on being my friend, even though she isnt really ready to. Its weird, wanna know everyones opinions. In all honesty i do miss this girl so much from time to time, but i cant help her. She can also be trying to be friends to ease her guilt. I did say i forgave her, for my own healing. Edited February 8, 2016 by Flamez
mightycpa Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Ah, girls and cocaine and ecstasy... good times! She sounds like a ****ing train wreck, and you're doing real good not to get reeled into that drama. 3
PegNosePete Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Why on earth would you want to be friends with someone like that? Drop off her stuff, lose her contact info, and block her in every way possible.
Brando Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Well long story short, she broke contact asking if i still had her stuff and if she can have it back, and hoped i was doing 'well'. I told her yes i still have her stuff and thats its not a problem that i still have her things and i will give her things back. I ignored the hope you are doing 'well' she insisted again, i hope you're doing good to keep the conversation going. I basically said im better etc. We lasted 1 month shy of 6 years, met at 17 ( highschool ) Her reasons for breaking up were very contradicting reasons i feel she has/had GIGS. The normal im not in love with you but i love you, i may be back but cant make any promises etc. She texted me with a apology after she broke NC, and shes the one that insisted NC. I just upheld it. ( i had forms i could still contact her if i wanted ) Whats really interesting i found out how bad her lifes going downhill. She got a job being a bartender, shes now driving home/places drunk, has 2 tickets over 20mph, one more ticket until she loses her license. She said she doesnt remember the last time shes been sober since we broke up, ( this girl was never was like this, did a complete 180 ) Shes constantly doing dabs, and drinking 24/7, extacy, cocaine. Completely going off the rails. Party phase on max ETC. She also barely eats went from a size 7 pants with me to a size 0. Shes in horrible health status. I feel so bad for her but i cant. She said she was losing herself in our relationship, and now she loves herself... Like no thats not loving yourself.. and you are losing yourself now ( I didnt say this to her but shes so GONE ) Whats also interesting, she says she doesn't know if either of us are ready to be friends ( SHE INSISTED THIS ) I even told her when we broke up and she insisted on being friends, NO! She said she cant look at my instagram anymore since i got a makeover and look different, working out getting big etc. I DIDNT EVEN KNOW SHE WAS LOOKING AT MY STUFF! ( tell-tale signs shes still hurt from the breakup ) but shes open to try to be friends she 'supposes' I told her i don't really wanna be friends. She goes well.. maybe not friends... but not strangers either. We had a good conversation it was nice to hear from her, set me back for MAYBE a workout that night, but im being the bigger person and driving her stuff over her parents house and continuing NC. This really does seem like GIGS. I may be wrong, and i'm not saying that to justify her coming back. In all honesty i dont even want her right now the way she is. Shes been numbing herself ever since our breakup. I changed and been sober the whole time aside new years eve. ( i smoked marijuana with her on a daily basis ) Shes in phase 3 if it is, and now shes insisting on being my friend, even though she isnt really ready to. Its weird, wanna know everyones opinions. In all honesty i do miss this girl so much from time to time, but i cant help her. She can also be trying to be friends to ease her guilt. I did say i forgave her, for my own healing. Keep doing you. Sounds like you're on the right track. Stop talking to her. She's a mess. Not you're problem anymore.
Author Flamez Posted February 8, 2016 Author Posted February 8, 2016 (edited) Why on earth would you want to be friends with someone like that? Drop off her stuff, lose her contact info, and block her in every way possible. Idk if you read between the lines of what i said, shes insisting on being friends. I basically told her we cant be friends.. then shes trying to push it saying well maybe not friends.. but not strangers either. At the same time she says shes not ready to be friends yet she doesnt think LOL. #mind****, Ive been NC again ever since friday. I told id let her know when she can pick her stuff up, but im not gonna say anything and drop it off at her house while shes at work. The sad thing is she thinks shes so cool doing all this. Idk what happened to her, taste of freedom messed her up. Im convinced she havent even dealth with the breakup yet. This is the same girl, whos dad called me 2 weeks after our breakup saying she cant sleep or eat and shes depressed. ( in other words she was sad being the dumper ) So it does go to prove that dumpers can feel SOME type of grief. Then again she ended it for petty reasons. I dont really forgive her, after how much heartbreak she caused me but i had to say it for my final stages of healing. Edited February 8, 2016 by Flamez
hippychick3 Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 It doesn't really matter what she says or if she "insists" you stay friends. You have a voice. Maintain NC unless you're looking for drama and misery. In that case, go ahead and be "not strangers"...
Author Flamez Posted February 8, 2016 Author Posted February 8, 2016 It doesn't really matter what she says or if she "insists" you stay friends. You have a voice. Maintain NC unless you're looking for drama and misery. In that case, go ahead and be "not strangers"... Haha i dont want drama or misery, just dont know her true motives behind that, thats all. Shes used to control.. i was a doormat for to long.
Author Flamez Posted February 8, 2016 Author Posted February 8, 2016 You know whats even more funny, she contacted me 5 days after i posted a picture of me and another chick hanging out
Been Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 You know what's funnier ? That you let her bother you and take up your time. I agree-she sounds like a train wreak. She seems like one those people who don't want you but also don't want you to move on before they can.
Chi townD Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Yeah, it does sound like GIGS. The partying, the drinking and the drugs. Problem is, I think she's spiraling out of control. She lost a LOT of weight going from a size 7 to a size 0 which is an unhealthy weight. She might be doing some very hard line drugs. So, why the friends request? She knows her life is out of control and wanted to revisit you and a time when things felt safe and secure. dude, you need to stay away from her or she's going to drag you down with her.
Author Flamez Posted February 8, 2016 Author Posted February 8, 2016 You know what's funnier ? That you let her bother you and take up your time. I agree-she sounds like a train wreak. She seems like one those people who don't want you but also don't want you to move on before they can. To a certain extent. Im a lot further than i was 2 months ago i can tell you that.
Author Flamez Posted February 8, 2016 Author Posted February 8, 2016 (edited) Yeah, it does sound like GIGS. The partying, the drinking and the drugs. Problem is, I think she's spiraling out of control. She lost a LOT of weight going from a size 7 to a size 0 which is an unhealthy weight. She might be doing some very hard line drugs. So, why the friends request? She knows her life is out of control and wanted to revisit you and a time when things felt safe and secure. dude, you need to stay away from her or she's going to drag you down with her. Im not planning on being around her or talking to her when shes like this. Its bad though i dont even know who this girl is anymore. Literally like a lightswitch. Edited February 8, 2016 by Flamez
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