blue_jay_bird Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 I feel so disconnected to my boyfriend. We watch movies, he grunts. I'll try to talk about the movie. Make comments. He just doesn't respond. He's ADD, so I just get over it. I used to try harder, but it feels like I'm in a relationship with a guy that never to take charge. Iv hinted at my boredom, we did some stuff I guess. But, things kind of drift back to movies and grunts. I know relationships take work. But I feel like the one dragging him out. I feel like it's impossible to get his attention./ talk/ make conversation. 1
Author blue_jay_bird Posted February 8, 2016 Author Posted February 8, 2016 Why are you with him? Cause I'm willing to try to work this out. 1
angel.eyes Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 I'm not asking whether you're willing to work it out. I'm asking why you're even with him in the first place. 2
xcupid Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 It takes more than one person to "work it out." 2
katiegrl Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Cause I'm willing to try to work this out. Okay, why don't you start by telling us what you actually *like* about him...his *good* qualities. What are the *positive* things about your RL? We can build from there. 1
katiegrl Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Okay, why don't you start by telling us what you actually *like* about him...his *good* qualities. What are the *positive* things about your RL? We can build from there. OP....if it's taking you this long to think of anything you actually like about him....this is not good. 1
AMJ Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 He just wants to sit around, watch TV and grunt? It sounds like you're actually dating an Ape. Find girlfriends, go do the things and activities you want to go do. Then you'll meet a guy who wants to do those things with you, and you can ditch your Ape for a man. You're welcome. 2
preraph Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 You can't fix a guy like this, and there's plenty of them out there. They seem to be only keeping a woman around for when they need sex. They're terrible companions and make terrible fathers because they're even more disconnected and avoiding once kids come in to add to the household chaos. Dump him and get a boyfriend who is a whole person. 1
Redhead14 Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 I feel so disconnected to my boyfriend. We watch movies, he grunts. I'll try to talk about the movie. Make comments. He just doesn't respond. He's ADD, so I just get over it. I used to try harder, but it feels like I'm in a relationship with a guy that never to take charge. Iv hinted at my boredom, we did some stuff I guess. But, things kind of drift back to movies and grunts. I know relationships take work. But I feel like the one dragging him out. I feel like it's impossible to get his attention./ talk/ make conversation. How long have you been seeing each other? 1
Robratory Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Cause I'm willing to try to work this out. This is not what they mean when they say that relationships take work. The "work" consists of negotiation, which requires two engaged people. One person cannot work things out in a relationship. Only both together can do it. It seems your boyfriend has no interest in working things out nor even any awareness that things need to be worked out. 1
katiegrl Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 I am still waiting for the OP to answer my earlier question. OP, again, what do you actually like about him? Positive qualities? It makes no sense to try and make something work with a man ....if you can't think of one thing you like about him or positive quality about him. 1
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