Stereotypical11 Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 The guy from work that I'm in love with is getting married a lot sooner than I thought literally in a couple of months. I've told him how I feel, he said he wants to get married but then continues to flirt with me and sext me. I've tried to avoid him at work and we talked about it he said he had noticed that I'd been avoiding him but I litrally bumped into him in every door way on several different days last week it was scary that even he admitted it was weird. I don't know what to do I said I don't want to talk to him and he agreed but I don't want him to get married.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 The guy from work that I'm in love with is getting married a lot sooner than I thought literally in a couple of months. I've told him how I feel, he said he wants to get married but then continues to flirt with me and sext me. I've tried to avoid him at work and we talked about it he said he had noticed that I'd been avoiding him but I litrally bumped into him in every door way on several different days last week it was scary that even he admitted it was weird. I don't know what to do I said I don't want to talk to him and he agreed but I don't want him to get married. Tough luck, girl. It's not your choice. Stop enabling his crappy behaviour. He's using you for some cheap thrills while he goes home to his bride. Don't let yourself be used like that. If he calls you out on it, remind him he's someone else's fiance. This guy is a creep. 7
d0nnivain Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 He may find your attention flattering & an ego boost but nothing you do or say will stop his weeding. You have to recognize that he is no longer in the pool of available men & stop thinking about him as anything other then a co worker. 1
sandylee1 Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 HE wants to get married and that's all that really matters. Why would you be interested in a guy that flirts with you and sexts when he's about to get married. His poor fiancee will be a betrayed wife very soon at this rate. How would you feel if your fiancé behaved this way? Stop encouraging him and straight up tell him to keep it professional from now on. Some empathy would do you good. Stop thinking about yourself alone. 2
No_Go Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 This person is a manipulator - he doesn't care about your feelings, or the ones of his GF, he just cares about feeding his ego. I encountered a guy like this in my past. He fully speculated with his work superiority and the fact that I was a virgin with zero dating experience at that time (and zero support from family and friends - he carefully checked that before starting his game). I was his shoulder to cry on for the whole year of his divorce. Short 6 months later he knocked up his 40 yo long distance GF, informing me about her on my birthday. I wasted 3 years dreaming and crying over him. 3 years that I could be loved and love someone who has morals. I lost my virginity to an abusive guy, trying to forget about him. Don't repeat my steps. It is so much not worth it. You are his victim, not his lover. If it is possible to switch jobs to stay away from him, this is probably the best course of action. If not - don't ever respond to his messages, and any physical advances - even make them public whenever possible. Sorry for the rant but reading your posts makes me blood boil. Those type of men are just criminals that will never be punished. The guy from work that I'm in love with is getting married a lot sooner than I thought literally in a couple of months. I've told him how I feel, he said he wants to get married but then continues to flirt with me and sext me. I've tried to avoid him at work and we talked about it he said he had noticed that I'd been avoiding him but I litrally bumped into him in every door way on several different days last week it was scary that even he admitted it was weird. I don't know what to do I said I don't want to talk to him and he agreed but I don't want him to get married. 1
Cherryz Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 Hahahahaha, funny. Anyway, just accept the truth and reality. -He is gonna marry if you like it or not! -He is not single! So he is not available! -There cant be anything between you and him -Move on! Man are pics they say. Whatever he do , you on the loser side either way. So know your worth and cut him off. And realize that everyone fall inlove 1000000000 of times in their life BUt that means nothing. And t doesnt mean you have to be with everyone you like or fall for. Keep avoid him, and dont entertain him in any kind of way. He may be playing games, but know your worth and dont let him mess with your heart! If you dont feed this feelings you have, with time you will soon get over this dude!
AMJ Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 How long have you known him? Have you ever spent time with him outside of work?
CarrieT Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 Send copies of the sexts to his fiancé. Expose him and don't look back. 1
xcupid Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 Doesn't sound like he's in love with you though, does it? 1
smudge21 Posted February 8, 2016 Posted February 8, 2016 - Man are PIGS i ment. lol I like to think of myself more like a giraffe, just having an easy life but with my head firmly stuck in the clouds. This guy though, is a pig and he's clearly just using your attention to feed his ego and no doubt has a few others who do the same. He's like a troll, the more you feed him, the more he takes, but he will never ever return any of your attention or love. 1
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