Does she know it's a date?

[Lewis99]

So I met this girl at the park whilst out running on Monday, we said hi and smiled at each other but I didn't work up the courage to talk to her and ask for her number, but the Saturday of the same week I run into her again. I managed to talk to her and get her number, she seemed very nice and forthcoming and I said I'd call her. So now the next day I've called her and arranged a date for next Saturday, we're both going into town, grab some lunch at the farmers market, walk around, chat stuff like that.

 

Thing is I don't know if she knows it's a date. I never said "cool, it's a date" on the phone so I'm worried she think we may just be hanging out. I'm telling myself she would know it's a date because no guy, as far as I know, will get a girl's number after just meeting her, ask if she wants to go out alone with him (i.e.:with no other friends), but it not be a date. We agreed to meet at the train station and she said she her mum would drop her off so her mum could meet me and I doubt that is something you would do if you were just hanging out.

 

Then she said something in the phone call that made me a bit nervous. When I asked her if Saturday was ok she said yes but not in the morning because she had her school dance the night before. In my country (Australia) most people who go to school dances with a partner aren't committed, it's mostly just with friends, but I don't know that for sure.

 

So this all makes me think that she may not know it's a date. What do you think? Is there anything I could do on the day to make it clear to her without being weird about it?

 

Thanks

Lewis

[d0nnivain]

You are strangers. You called & arranged a meeting for a Saturday. Yes, she knows that is a date. It was a purposeful act, not a casual lets be friends sort of thing (but then again the mind of a teenaged girl is a strange thing). Do try to hold her hand as you stroll through the farmers' market,

[Erdbeere]

So I met this girl at the park whilst out running on Monday, we said hi and smiled at each other but I didn't work up the courage to talk to her and ask for her number, but the Saturday of the same week I run into her again. I managed to talk to her and get her number, she seemed very nice and forthcoming and I said I'd call her. So now the next day I've called her and arranged a date for next Saturday, we're both going into town, grab some lunch at the farmers market, walk around, chat stuff like that.

 

Thing is I don't know if she knows it's a date. I never said "cool, it's a date" on the phone so I'm worried she think we may just be hanging out. I'm telling myself she would know it's a date because no guy, as far as I know, will get a girl's number after just meeting her, ask if she wants to go out alone with him (i.e.:with no other friends), but it not be a date. We agreed to meet at the train station and she said she her mum would drop her off so her mum could meet me and I doubt that is something you would do if you were just hanging out.

 

Then she said something in the phone call that made me a bit nervous. When I asked her if Saturday was ok she said yes but not in the morning because she had her school dance the night before. In my country (Australia) most people who go to school dances with a partner aren't committed, it's mostly just with friends, but I don't know that for sure.

 

So this all makes me think that she may not know it's a date. What do you think? Is there anything I could do on the day to make it clear to her without being weird about it?

 

Thanks

Lewis

 

My instinct is it doesn't matter. She is entirely new to your life, and you haven't spent hours chatting yet, I presume. It's worthwhile just getting to know her as a human being first and foremost in these early meetings.

[angel.eyes]

Text or call her the day before your date to confirm details. When she responds to confirm, you can reply back with: Great! I'm looking forward to our date.

 

On the date itself, flirt. Playful (but respectful) banter generally works. Hold her hand. Play with her fingers as you stroll around. If that goes over well, you can place your hand on the small of her back when you open a door or whatever.

 

Regardless of what happens try to relax and just enjoy the time you spend with each other. Don't stress out about not doing things perfectly.

 

I hope you have a fun date!