ziezieizzati Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 I went to a club yesterday. and there was this guy who kept kissing my neck and then we started going in for French kiss. Soon after, he grabbed my *** and slide his hands under my shirt and touched my boobs. I'm not sure if he's high but definitely not drunk cause he could touch my face for kisses. I honestly don't find myself pretty or very attractive. but I'm just wondering do guys do that to ugly girls or I must be quite decent looking for him to give me all those physical stuff. he didn't ask for my number cause I went away when I had enough. but he did ask for my name and kept singing in my ear
basil67 Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 Not drunk because he could touch your face for kisses? I have no idea what this means. His behaviour sounds drunk to me. Either that or he was just having fun feeling up a girl who'd let him.
Author ziezieizzati Posted February 7, 2016 Author Posted February 7, 2016 In a sense that he could still control himself by asking for my name and get my hair off my face. but I'm just wondering even if he's high, would guys actually dance with girls who aren't attractive to them?
basil67 Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 In a sense that he could still control himself by asking for my name and get my hair off my face. but I'm just wondering even if he's high, would guys actually dance with girls who aren't attractive to them? hehe, a guy would have to be blind drunk to not be able to do this. I'm sure he found you attractive at the time. But you have to remember that alcohol (and possibly other substances) makes everyone seem attractive. Guys used to joke about rating a girl's beauty by the amount of drinks he'd need to find her attractive. If he only needed one drink, then he found her very attractive. If he needed 10, then not so much. In short, I wouldn't assume anything about the thought process of a stranger in a club ...except that they are probably not sober.
Author ziezieizzati Posted February 7, 2016 Author Posted February 7, 2016 Thanks for the reply! Oh yeah, and do guys actually have interest in the girls they dance and made out with or it's the sake of having fun?
smudge21 Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 It goes both ways, in a party environment where the alcohol is flowing people let go of their inhibitions and any barriers they may have. Often all it can take is a bit of banter, a dance, a little touch and two people who normally would never get close are suddenly like a scene from The Thing, melding into one! You should never judge a persons actions or what they say when they've had a few, just as no one should judge you if you want to let your hair down and have some fun.
Lois_Griffin Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 Thanks for the reply! Oh yeah, and do guys actually have interest in the girls they dance and made out with or it's the sake of having fun? I'm going to assume you're really, really young. You basically met a club rat who had no problem groping you sexually 6 minutes after he met you. That's not 'attraction' - it was just a classless little twit who took advantage of an opportunity because it was there. His "interest" level was that you were the flavor of the moment and allowed him to grope you, so he did it. The minute you left, the little fool found some other girl to suck face with and feel up. How romantic. It's apparent you have very little experience so I just want to say, don't confuse some guy whose feeling you up as someone whose 'attracted' to you. You're going to find out in life that there will ALWAYS be guys who'll be happy to have sex with you then forget your name in the morning. That's more about opportunity and not so much about 'attraction.'
Scarlett.O'hara Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 do guys actually have interest in the girls they dance and made out with or it's the sake of having fun? The majority of the time they are just looking for someone to hook up with for the night, "no strings attached". The fact that the guy you met stuck his hand down your top without knowing more about you than your name shows you exactly what he wanted. If you are looking for a casual hookup or a bit of fun that is fine, but in my experience the club is not the place to find something more serious or meaningful. There are some exceptions, however, the guy you met wasn't one of them. You will have a much easier time figuring out if a guy is really interested when he is sober. It sounds like you are looking for this guy to validate your attractiveness, but it isn't his opinion that really matters, it is yours. You have to try and work on your self confidence from within, otherwise you will end up lowering your standards and letting guys take advantage of you just for giving you a bit of attention, which will only make you feel worse about yourself later. You deserve better than that.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 Thanks for the reply! Oh yeah, and do guys actually have interest in the girls they dance and made out with or it's the sake of having fun? Generally, it's for the sake of having fun. Don't read more into it. And a guy can most definitely brush your hair off your face and ask your name even if he is very drunk. OP, you sound quite young and not very experienced. This is not a bad thing, of course, but be careful. Clubs can be risky places if you don't know what you're doing; always keep your wits about you and don't let some guy seduce you into doing things you're not very comfortable with. And at the risk of sounding like your mom: never accept a drink from a stranger and never leave your own drink unattended. I realize you didn't mention any of that in your post, but I'm saying it anyway because predatory types are on the lookout for less-experienced girls. Have fun but stay safe. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 In a club setting willing is more important than winsome (which means attractive). To determine if he likes you, look at how he acts outside of the club. Did he contact you again? Ask you out on a proper date? All he really did was ask your name. That shows it was an in the moment thing. He wasn't serious about you. Basically he groped you in public & you didn't say no. That is all he cared about at that moment. Don't hold out too much hope for this one.
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