I became crazy after the break up

[Cylvia25]

bf and I dated for 3 years. said I was the love of his life. then we broke up. I started to send my bf texts from fake numbers, create fake instagram profiles to follow him, log into his accounts to see what he was doing, called and texted him all the time, asked his friends about him, cried and begged for him back, wrote him letters, etc. after some time I cooled down and was able to give him space and we started to hang out again. but now he says he is done with me forever. he said that it wasn't anything I did. is this my fault? can I do anything now to get him back? he cheated on me but I forgave him. I love him very much.

[d0nnivain]

I'm surprised that you got back together. He was probably questioning his decision. After a break up some people do wonder if they did the right thing. When you got back together it reinforced for him that he was over you & the relationship had run it's course.

 

 

Being dumped is hard but it happens. You can't undo it. All you can do is accept it, lick your wounds, heal & move on.

 

 

This time block him & unfriend / unfollow him from all social media. Go NC for your own sanity & before you end up on the wrong end of a restraining order.

[K2z]

The craziness stems from a deficit of self-love and respect. Leave him where he is right now and focus on loving yourself, as hard as that sounds. There is no sacrifice or plea bargain that will make him love a needy woman. But, whether he is a factor in your future life or not, you cannot lose by taking care of yourself and rediscovering yourself. Not easy to implement when the storm of a breakup is raging, but that's the truth.

[ExpatInItaly]

I think it's probably truly over for good, OP.

 

Your actions didn't help the situation, but they also didn't cause the break-up. (At least, I'm assuming you didn't behave this way before) The fact that he's already cheated says he just wasn't committed, and didn't have enough love or respect for you to see this relationship last.

 

It will be hard but you need to detach from him. As another poster advised, work on loving yourself more. This will help you in your healing and also in weeding out chumps in the future.

[d0nnivain]

I just put 2 & 2 together. you are the high school couple from the other thread. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/568659-am-i-carrying-around-false-hope

 

Because your EX is a kid too who knows. Kids change their minds. Since he cheated on your however, you really shouldn't take him back because he's not a good guy for you.