Fharris Posted February 6, 2016 Posted February 6, 2016 Me and my ex gf broke up over a year ago! We stopped talking for a while and then got back in touch a few months later. We become friends and meet up a few times through the year and got along well, anyway about 3 months ago she got a bf and was a bit off for a while but recently been talking more. Some things I'm not sure about that I want opinions on? In the last month or so she texts me out the blue about old times like a song I use to play to her! And then the conversation would all be about old times! Like all the funny stuff that happened when we were together and saying how much it still makes her laugh. And then the other week she sent me old pictures she still had also out the blue of me with her daughter and managed to drop in she randomly found pics of me even though she thought she had deleted them! I know this sounds like nothing but she never spoke about the past before and even told me not to bring it up! its all reminiscing with her and that I know it might be innocent but To me it doesn't make any sense especially as she has a bf :s
Been Posted February 6, 2016 Posted February 6, 2016 Ask yourself why. She has a boyfriend but yet she talks to you about the past after telling you not to bring it up. She's seeing how this new boyfriend is going to be while at the same time putting a line out to you and keeping you interested- your on the back burner. Dont believe it? Ask her why she brings up the past when she's with somebody new. What's the point? Not to mention how unfair that is of BOTH of you to her current boyfriend who more then likely has no idea these conversations are taking place. If you truly are "friends" you could find something other to talk about then the past. I say your being held in reserve in case the new guy starts not working out. Then she has you sitting right there-you really want to be option B? 2
Author Fharris Posted February 6, 2016 Author Posted February 6, 2016 Yea that was what I was basically thinking and yea being the side order isn't my thing I just wanted to know that I'm right in what I'm looking into
marky00 Posted February 6, 2016 Posted February 6, 2016 Reasons she is bringing up the past: 1) As mentioned already, may want to keep you as Option B. 2) Enough time has passed where she is basically just seeing the good times you guys had. 3) Since she entered a new relationship, she may be bringing up the past so that the memories aren't lost forever which tend too happen when someone enters a new relationship. She's hoping she can stave off the burial (i.e. your relationship). 4) A comparison between you and the new bf is likely occurring. You can't be replaced since you are unique. So even though the new guy is ticking off boxes, he can't replace you as such as you ticked different boxes. Look, one day... a reconciliation may be possible. She clearly at least likes you as a person so that's always a starting point for a possible recon. A lot depends on what happens with this next relationship. 1
Author Fharris Posted February 8, 2016 Author Posted February 8, 2016 Yea I can see any of them being possible! But I think I should distance myself because a few times now she said she wants to meet be good to have a laugh again and all that and never gets back to me and this has happened more than once! Don't know if it's intentional or not!
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