Jetsetgo Posted February 6, 2016 Posted February 6, 2016 I've been dating and still am, my gf of about 3 months. We were supposed to go on a trip in a few days. My gf texted me saying she can't go, her family didn't want her to go cause they haven't met me yet. Originally we were supposed to stop by her parents who live out of town, meet them and they would drive us to the airport. They changed heir minds suddenly and gave her the choice that she can visit them again when we aren't dating. For some reason they changed their minds possibly because their old fashioned. My gf and I have a really strong relationship and we are a good match, but she doesn't want to lose her parents. She's torn because we have a great relationship and she asked for time. I'm in a losing spot because now if she chooses me I split her family and if she doesn't she loses a great guy. We both don't know if we should stay or go. Any advice on this? Her parents have never met me, but I did send them gifts during Xmas. Thanks.
foam12 Posted February 6, 2016 Posted February 6, 2016 How old are you two? It sounds like at least she may be young, which could require her parents approval. Sounds like something is missing or perhaps she got cold feet on spending an entire vacation as a couple after 3 months.
Author Jetsetgo Posted February 6, 2016 Author Posted February 6, 2016 I'm late 20s she's early 20s. She doesn't live with her parents, moved to the city to pursue school and other things. I can understand the cold feet but I don't think so only because everything was fine up until yesterday. She's cried for two days straight now.
foam12 Posted February 6, 2016 Posted February 6, 2016 Meeting the family was very important to my ex, which caused a lot of issues when I missed a birthday party in her family, so maybe postpone the trip and make another one to meet her family. Don't know but it sounds like something else may be going on.
Author Jetsetgo Posted February 6, 2016 Author Posted February 6, 2016 At first it crossed my mind something else was going on but I don't think so, I've called her and she assures me I make her very happy which is why this is so hard for her. I shot her a msg this morning saying to take her time figuring stuff out and I'm gonna be doing the same cause this is a pretty difficult situation. I guess I'm uncertain if she's staying or going, or if I should stay or go. As it stands now we're still dating.. Somewhat.
mightycpa Posted February 6, 2016 Posted February 6, 2016 How difficult can it be? Just tell her that you'll meet her at the airport. They haven't seen you, so all she has to do is ignore you if she bumps into you at airport check-in. Or, she could explain to them how she's an adult, unless of course, they support her financially. Or, you could skip the visit to the parents entirely. Or, you could both not go. Or, you've only been dating her three months. It's not unreasonable they view you with suspicion. Tell her to tell her parents that you understand completely, and take a pal with you. Or, another girl. So many ways to play this. 2
Author Jetsetgo Posted February 6, 2016 Author Posted February 6, 2016 Yeah you're right I got tons of options. I guess my question would be if it's worth me being in a relationship with this girl after this point. Thoughts?
Author Jetsetgo Posted February 10, 2016 Author Posted February 10, 2016 well i'll update the story, it's not for the faint of heart. This one ended badly which is surprising because everything was going so good up until this point. I was at work on friday dayshift and I decided to text her roommate, hey hwatsup? on facebook, to see how my gf (at the time) was doing and if her and her husband wanted to buy tickets to an event coming up to support one of the guys i work with. After texting her 20 minutes late my ex took her status to single on facebook. Her roomate then texts me and says whatsup? so i asked him about social tickets and how my ex was doing at the time. His response was she was fine, so i asked for her to text or call me and he told me that nope, move on she's not gonna give you the dignity.. This is after 3 months of being very much into each other. So i play along with this greaseball over text and agree with him so that maybe this girl will at least say goodbye, nope didnt even get that. I texted her later asking if she wanted her stuff back, she said keep it. I asked her what's going on? she told me to eff off. This was after she cancelled on our trip last minute. Things i took away from this, A girl who won't fight for me, and instead runs back to her parents whom she doesn't live with is complete BS. She didn't even try to work with me, this to me was an excuse to cut things off for whatever reason (i'll never know now). No i don't want to be with a coward who can't even text me that it's over, and hides behind a fat$ss greasy roomate whom i lost respect for. Unofrtunately i'm mature enough that i don't understand what's happening here, and that's why im so frustrated by all of this. Anyways back to the single life, if anyone has any comments or advice please feel free, i don't think i'll be dating for awhile.
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