Ex changed for the worse... but could he possibly change back?

[karen18]

My ex used to be an amazing person with great morals. people always said to be that he was a sweetheart and a genuinely good guy. until he began to change. he cheated on me (which was something he said he would never do), began lying, drinking, partying more and showing more interest in other woman. he broke up with me and said things are done for good, although he used to talk about marriage and said I was the love of his life. we have hung out more than 10 times since breaking up and every time i see him he treats me as if we are dating, he is sweet and affectionate and seems to care for me, but then I don't hear from him unless I text him. we broke up 10 months ago. now he says he has no feelings and is only using me for sex. he says there is no future for us, not even later on. he said he has a new girl and has been cheating on her with me for a while now. is there any chance he will regret this and go back to being the person he used to be?

[bassnkid]

It is really hard to say what will happen. It sounds like he is struggling with himself. Often times when someone does something that they aren't proud of it can send them into a downward spiral. Mostly so that they can avoid the guilt, but it always just creates more. There is really not much that you can do. If he is cheating with you right now then how do you know that he won't cheat on you if you ever end up back together? He needs to realize that he needs to do things the right way and not just the easy way. He needs to get things back to where they should be, that is if he isn't who he truly wants to be. The only way to do that is to stop the cheating, and anything else that is hurting him.

[darkbloom]

Here's the thing. People don't just have abrupt character changes all of a sudden. You were in love with who you thought he was or who you wanted him to be. He probably hid it from you or you chose not to see it.

 

Can I ask why you would want someone back who cheated and lied to you? And someone who told you he was just using you for sex? Why? Don't you deserve better?

[DarkHorizon]

My ex used to be an amazing person with great morals. people always said to be that he was a sweetheart and a genuinely good guy. until he began to change. he cheated on me (which was something he said he would never do), began lying, drinking, partying more and showing more interest in other woman. he broke up with me and said things are done for good, although he used to talk about marriage and said I was the love of his life. we have hung out more than 10 times since breaking up and every time i see him he treats me as if we are dating, he is sweet and affectionate and seems to care for me, but then I don't hear from him unless I text him. we broke up 10 months ago. now he says he has no feelings and is only using me for sex. he says there is no future for us, not even later on. he said he has a new girl and has been cheating on her with me for a while now. is there any chance he will regret this and go back to being the person he used to be?

 

Karen, it is over. I am sorry for what you are going through. Even if he would come back, it wouldn't be possible to rebuild the initial trust you once had. Once people fall out of love... that's when they change. You can't "make" him fall in love with you again. When you look at everything directly; he cheated on you, broke up with you, told you he doesn't love you anymore and used you for sex. That's it. You don't need more than that.

 

I won't be here trying to judge his character, because it is not about him. You posted here, so it is about you. Save yourself from more pain; you had enough. It is time to move on.

[Brando]

In time you will not want a guy like him back. I'm very sorry for what you have gone through. I'm sure you miss what he used to be, but that person is gone and you deserve so much better. There are a ton of decent men in the world that will treat you great. You will look back and think "what was I thinking." Until then, absolutely NC!!! He doesn't deserve another second of your attention. Everything he's done is unforgivable.

 

Keep posting, keep reading others posts, stay strong and enjoy yourself now that you are free from a guy you don't need in your life.

[Alamo657]

My ex used to be an amazing person with great morals. people always said to be that he was a sweetheart and a genuinely good guy. until he began to change. he cheated on me (which was something he said he would never do), began lying, drinking, partying more and showing more interest in other woman. he broke up with me and said things are done for good, although he used to talk about marriage and said I was the love of his life. we have hung out more than 10 times since breaking up and every time i see him he treats me as if we are dating, he is sweet and affectionate and seems to care for me, but then I don't hear from him unless I text him. we broke up 10 months ago. now he says he has no feelings and is only using me for sex. he says there is no future for us, not even later on. he said he has a new girl and has been cheating on her with me for a while now. is there any chance he will regret this and go back to being the person he used to be?

 

He will, when he will be older, and less attractive (unless he has enough money for escorts of course).