anonymousbear00101100 Posted February 4, 2016 Posted February 4, 2016 The further I get from my breakup, the more interested I am in flirting with new girls. I've gone out and gotten a lot of numbers, made out with some girls, and even recently decided to start hooking up again. And while no girl has ever not given me her number (it seems they will almost always give it out just to be polite), it is rare that I get much of a back and forth over text before it fizzles out. I think it comes down to first impressions and how you get the number of a girl you just met and might never see again. The go to is usually ask if I can sit with them, introduce myself talk to them for a little bit, then say it was nice meeting them, asking them for their number to hang out again. I swear it's not as awkward as it sounds. Is there a better way to go about getting someones number so that it is more likely to turn into something? I'm not looking for cheesy one liners, but what is the way you've found works best?
yxalitis Posted February 4, 2016 Posted February 4, 2016 You're asking the wrong question. you should be asking: "how can I fidn a girl who actually wants to go out with me" Spending a few minutes annoying them in a public place and then asking for a number is just giving them a way to get rid of you. Spend some time to get to know them, Jesus what's the hurry?
Author anonymousbear00101100 Posted February 4, 2016 Author Posted February 4, 2016 Spend some time to get to know them Well that's kind of the point of getting a number. Are you suggesting I just sit in my room alone all day waiting for someone to magically appear into my life? And the girls who come up to me and start a conversation I should just send away?
spriggan2 Posted February 4, 2016 Posted February 4, 2016 Yeah, I mean there is a bit of an art to gracefully acquiring the number, but that only comes after the interaction has been at least pleasant for both parties. At that point it's icing on the cake, and once you get the number you can actually text some fun quip about the meeting and send an open ended remark that she may respond to. Go in looking to just have fun though. Edit - assuming youre talking about a bar or club situation. Worry about the number later.
jen1447 Posted February 4, 2016 Posted February 4, 2016 Seduce them first, everything else after. Always works for me. 1
Qboro90 Posted February 5, 2016 Posted February 5, 2016 Depending on where you are and what the nature of the environment is, there can be a multitude of ways to go about getting a girls number. Where are you usually interacting with women who you want to approach?
yxalitis Posted February 5, 2016 Posted February 5, 2016 Well that's kind of the point of getting a number. Are you suggesting I just sit in my room alone all day waiting for someone to magically appear into my life? And the girls who come up to me and start a conversation I should just send away? *sigh...don't be moronic. You stated that: "introduce myself talk to them for a little bit, then say it was nice meeting them, asking them for their number to hang out again" Does that sound like you spent ANY effort getting to know them? To me, and probably them, you're just picking the nearest pretty girl and grabbing their digits ASAP. 1
Author anonymousbear00101100 Posted February 5, 2016 Author Posted February 5, 2016 (edited) *sigh...don't be moronic. You stated that: "introduce myself talk to them for a little bit, then say it was nice meeting them, asking them for their number to hang out again" Does that sound like you spent ANY effort getting to know them? To me, and probably them, you're just picking the nearest pretty girl and grabbing their digits ASAP. When I say talk to them I mean asking them questions about themselves and making conversation. What other way is their to meet people, of any gender, other than striking up a conversation with them. What do you suggest I do? Seriously. Rather than trashing me, offer a suggestion of what I should do differently? How should I get to know someone that isn't talking to them, because apparently that isn't an option? Edited February 5, 2016 by rjblak13 1
yxalitis Posted February 5, 2016 Posted February 5, 2016 When I say talk to them I mean asking them questions about themselves and making conversation. What other way is their to meet people, of any gender, other than striking up a conversation with them. What do you suggest I do? Seriously. Rather than trashing me and being an *******, offer a suggestion of what I should do differently? How should I get to know someone that isn't talking to them, because apparently that isn't an option? Expand on "talk to them for a little bit" You see, that implies a brief superficial conversation. As Jen stated, where's the seduction? It's not in the "Hey purty lady, can I haz ya digits?" It's in everything else leading up to that! A number from an uninterested person given so you just go away is as useless as a reverse gear on a vibrator. *waits for the 'likes' to pile up on that one.
risjurad Posted February 5, 2016 Posted February 5, 2016 So can somebody quantify "effort" then? Meeting in person the 1st time? after 3 dates? At some point, you would need to get her number or contact info.
Erdbeere Posted February 7, 2016 Posted February 7, 2016 The further I get from my breakup, the more interested I am in flirting with new girls. I've gone out and gotten a lot of numbers, made out with some girls, and even recently decided to start hooking up again. And while no girl has ever not given me her number (it seems they will almost always give it out just to be polite), it is rare that I get much of a back and forth over text before it fizzles out. I think it comes down to first impressions and how you get the number of a girl you just met and might never see again. The go to is usually ask if I can sit with them, introduce myself talk to them for a little bit, then say it was nice meeting them, asking them for their number to hang out again. I swear it's not as awkward as it sounds. Is there a better way to go about getting someones number so that it is more likely to turn into something? I'm not looking for cheesy one liners, but what is the way you've found works best? Men either come over and give me their number, or we chat for a while and then they give me it. This happens to me about 5 times a week on average, although this week it has happened 8 times, 5 of which were yesterday. If we get off to a good rapport, I make contact within the next hour via a chat app, simply to give them my number, so I don't need to worry about losing the note they gave me. I chat happily to everyone I had a good rapport with so far. Noone has yet been odd.
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