Should I tell her that I've never kissed a woman before or had sex before?

[BLaraForever05]

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[Phenx]

Why are you asking? Has she asked you this same question or are you just lacking experience and feeling emotional?

 

Either way probably not. Just go with the flow and have fun.

 

To be clear if you tell her this without any interrogation on her part (which would be lame of her anyway) that will certainly come off as strange and put you in a worse position.

 

If she does ask just tell joke with her and move the conversation along. Can't take questions like that seriously lol.

 

2 cents...

[d0nnivain]

If you are very young and you think she has the same level of (in)experience as you, maybe. Otherwise, keep it to yourself. Adopt a fake it 'til you make it attitude & do what comes naturally.

[Mikau]

Before I lost my virginity last year at age 26 I told my now ex-gf, and I'm happy I did.

 

That said, I did it because it made me feel better and I was lucky that she respected my honesty and was ok with it. You do run the risk of putting somebody off, but do you really want to be with somebody who turns you down over inexperience?

[risjurad]

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I'm leaning towards no. If for some reason she can tell, she'll know anyways. Before hand may be a TMI situation.

[soph-walker]

I'm not sure there's a way to tell anyone this without it being a game changer, it's not like you can drop it into conversation casually.

 

What's the background..how long have you known this person? Where have you met?

[BeholdtheMan]

No...I compute that as a man, you will be judged as an undesirable loser unless u r significantly above average looking

[yxalitis]

Totally depends on the woman involved and your age.

Since you've told us neither, it's impossible to answer.

[almond]

Are you planning on asking her how many guys she's kissed or had sex with?

 

 

If not, then just go for it. No need to make an issue of it.

 

 

Do your best to just be in the moment and enjoy the experience, without worring about your inexperience

[Keira1231]

I was dating a guy who was a virgin and had basically only kissed a girl before me. He wasn't particularly attractive, but I had a huge amount of respect for him for other reasons and he treated me well.

 

I ended up being the one he popped his cherry with - he was still really nervous, so I can't say if me knowing made a difference, but it didn't change my perception of him either way, plus I had an inkling anyway. And at least when I knew I could take this into account - our first time being intimate, it was kinda more about him.

[IronZ]

One way or another she's gonna find out when you guys do either of those things. I would wait until a better time or just not say anything at all. It can be endearing if a girl kisses a guy and he's nervous/bad at it the first time (you will get better with practice trust me). It can be lame if this same guy tells her before any of this has happened. It makes it seem like you anticipate it happening and that's not very romantic.